Are women who were spanked as children more likely to enter abusive relationships?

Answer 1

there is a BIG difference between being spanked and being abused.

Frankly, I think most kids occasionally need physical reprimands, and if they are administered fairly, sensibly and don't cross the line into sadism, I don't think they produce maladjusted children that grow into maladjusted adults. So to answer your question - no.

In fact, I think the fact that most parents, for whatever reason, have been turned away from this sort of discipline, has a lot to do with why a lot of the urban and suburban kids I come in contact with are loud, lazy, spolied punks and punkettes.

Answer 2

NO. I was raised well with loving, but firm parents. I was sheltered from anything with a negative influence. I was spanked a few times as a child for talking back, lying, etc., but never out of anger. I was occasionally grounded for acting out. My parents made sure we went to church and I went to catholic school until I graduated high school.

I ended up in an abusive marriage out of ignorance. I had been treated so well and I was so sheltered growing up that I think I didn't KNOW that that sort of thing could happen. Then, when it did, I was ashamed and thought that it was my fault, because otherwise, why would I be hit? It took me a long time to understand.

I do not think being disciplined as a child leads a woman to enter an abusive relationship.

Answer 3

Actually, i think spanking has little to do with it, but i think youre on the right track. Women that have been physically abused, not punuished but abused get into bad relationships. So do men. My father used to beat the crap out of us, and guess who has finally started to be able to chose better men? I think i am an anomoly in that instance, i picked men that i could walk all over so that they couldnt abuse me in any way.
I disagree with spanking as a punishment. I think you can teach children things with out laying a cruel hand on them.
And i am certain that any man or woman that has a strained or violent relationship with any of their parents will grow up confused about gender roles, and relationships.


I would also like to add, that the reason peoples children are spoiled punks, is NOT because they were spanked as kids, its because modern parents DONT DO ANYTHING!! They let their kids terrorize the world, and then just wait for them to do something wrong, and blame the school system, society, marilyn manson for christ sakes!
no, kids are bad, because kids arent paid any attention to.
You remember how hard your parents worked to keep you polite and in line? That has nothing to do with spanking, its because they tried.

Answer 4

That is a very interesting questions. You should look up the internet to see if any studies prove it, or if any research is being done. Personally, I was spanked when I was young and then always had abusive relations. So I wouldn't be surprised if it was connected. Interesting!

Answer 5

I don't think so, getting spanked for punishment isn't abuse...and I was spanked, and I will never be in abusive relationship! And actually I think it had the opposite effect, my dad was kinda distant and the disciplinarian but I look for guys that are the opposite :)

Answer 6

no that is crazy i was spanked as a child and i can tell you one thing any man that hits me i will hit back if i cant beat your *** when your awake trust me i can stay up way longer...... with that said i think that is what is wrong with our kids now days we are not allowed to spank our kids anymore so they dont have to worry about it. i am not talking about beatings or slapping in the face i am talking you bend over and take the *** whippen you deserve.. when i grew up i knew not to ever back talk or get into trouble because i knew i would not get away with it. and btw i think there is more abuse now in adult because they were not spanked as a child they were not taught to respect each other like we were

Answer 7

Nope. But it depends on HOW/WHY they were spanked. If it wasn't because they did something wrong that warranted it but just interferred with mom or dad or made mom and dad mad, then it's possible.

If a kid understands clearly why they were punished, no big deal. If a kid learns that if you make mommy mad, she's going to spank you, the kid's going to learn to react that way when they get mad or that it's okay for others to treat you that way when they're mad....leading to abusive relationships.

Answer 8

not at all. both men and women have survived being spanked for thousands of years. my parents spanked me. my grandparents spanked my parents. my great grandparents spanked my grandparents, and so on. and none of us became abusive.

this whole "spanking a kid makes him grow up to be abusive" is a giant steaming pile of horse dung. in this touchy feely society we now live in, parents can be arrested for disciplining their children and look at kids today. they have no manners, no modesty, and no concept of right and wrong.

Answer 9

no, discipline has nothing to do with the choices one makes when choosing a partner. People in abusive relationships are often kids that saw their own parents getting mistreated by their partners.

Answer 10

i don't think so. I get spanked often as a kid and refuse to put up with abuse as an adult.