Can Grief From Loss Of Loved Ones Suddely Catch Up With You After Years?

Question

I lost my mother over 10 years ago and was very sad for a long time but seemed to get on with my life.I also lost the only sibling I had to a massive cornary at age 44.That was over 20 years ago. I was devistated with both deaths and felt I had grieved but then we were evicted from our homes in New Orleans in Katrina but were some of the lucky ones.We moved to a place that is really beautiful but since we have been here I have been dwelling on my families deaths alot.I have been diagnosed with post tramatic stress disorder and see a therapist often.That isnt the issue here,I just don't know why I seem to be thinking about their deaths al the time and miss them more than I ever have.Has it all just caught up with me now since Katrina or did Katrina just bring it to life and I dwell on it? I feel so very alone and im not alone I just feel lost.I have my wife and children but all the people that were my role models are gone,Why do I feel this way ?

Answer 1

You poor thing, how awful, I think you may of hit the spot there, you suffered a lot with Katrina, I think maybe it has made you realize how lucky you have been, and has made you think about your loved ones again, my sister died at the age of 38, just 7 years ago, and although I cried and mourned her death, I have times where I miss her terribly and wish I could see and speak to her again, I have times like this, then they will pass again, that doesn't mean I don't think about her each and every passing day, because I do, but I get on with life, as we all do, It is possible that you are suffering PTSD, I think it will take time, its also possible that you didn't quite deal with all the issues when you lost your Mother and brother /sister even though you may of thought you did, and now you are much wiser and more mature, your conscience has started to bring them to the front of your mind again, I think you may need to see a councilor to get to the root of the problem, then hopefully you can get on with your life again, you will never forget you loved one, but you will be able to carry on with out missing them too much, it is normal though to miss them, its only natural. Like I said I miss my sister more now than I did say 4 years ago.

I wish you well and hope you can get it sorted out.

Answer 2

no count number how stressful you attempt to no longer grieve a loss you finally end up doing it. I lost my Grandpa in 02 my dad in 03 and my different Grandpa in 04. I nevertheless have subject concerns with it. My 2nd grandpa i became into close to yet became into kinda proof against the technique so the fried became into less difficult. All you're able to do is take it sooner or later at a time. there is only probably something on your existence triggering the soreness precise now.... it gets greater effective. I also have a terrible time on Bdays and trip trips. stable success to you and so sorry on your loss

Answer 3

I think you are probably homesick for home, the place where you grew up, the place of your memories with your lost ones. It is your home, so many memories will sweep over you. Even though they have gone, you probably felt closer to them there and with the move you have not only move away from home but away from them- and thus you are probably yearning to go back home. If you think it will help discuss the possibility of going back home with your family and make plans over a period of time to make it possible. I wish you the very best!

Answer 4

grief is a normal, though painful part of life, the way I see it is, well for myself, when I can't handle something, i stuff it away, when I am ready,heart,mind,soul, it will resurface so I can deal with it. You need to remember that the mind is very powerful, somehow, deep in our subconscious we now what and when and how much we can handle. I hope this helps. I am so sorry for your pain, and I applaud your determination and strength to go forward, to question is to ultimately learn.