Why is male bonding so strong?

Question

Why is male bond so strong? I realized that women are always judgemental and so female bondings are often weak. While males can get together, respect each others, and call each other "bro" so easily.

How come males respect other males more (with no given sense of competition), while not befriending with females due to lack of attraction?

Answer 1

I think it's because guys are so able to joke with each other. In my tight-knit group of friends, any one of us can lash a joke at someone and we can all laugh it off easily, with no problems. We don't care what our friends look like, whether they're more attractive or less attractive than us, that doesn't matter. It's common interest that pulls us together.

I don't mean to say that girls are superficial, but often times in relationships between girls, it's easier to be jealous. I feel like girls develop a very close relationship with one friend, whereas guys develop very close relationships with several friends.

There's this sort of male bonding "code" almost, that's unwritten, in a sense. When a guy is another guy's best friend, there are certain things that he just doesn't do to betray that other friend's trust. I think that guys understand this and that's what makes them so respectful of each other.

Summary, from the movie Bad Boys (with Will Smith and Martin Lawrence):
"We ride together, we die together. Bad boys for life."

Answer 2

The first two answerers were on to something. Guys don't care about how we look (at least not nearly as much as women), we're not always comparing ourselves to each other, and we're not all sensitive and touchy-feely with each others' feelings. We can crack jokes at each other, within limits.

If a guy belches while he's with his guy friends, it's no big deal. He may even get complimented if it's a big one. But if either a man or a woman belches in mixed company, then the belcher (man or woman) feels compelled to apologize for the rude outburst.

I think men just feel more comfortable with expressing themselves when they're among men friends; they can let their shirt hang out, figuratively speaking. Around women, men feel like they have to behave and be civil. Women prefer it that way, but I think that's also something of a barrier between women.

Also, I think women are simply more prone to feeling threatened by another person, regardless of gender, than men are. I guess being thick-skinned has its benefits!

Answer 3

It relies upon on the bond in question. The gender of the certainly everyone isn't the main appropriate factor, yet quite the closeness of the relationship. apparently, any bond could be reliable or vulnerable, no remember the genders of the persons in touch. it is not sensible to contemplate issues ordinarily words whilst different than for the guy.

Answer 4

this is not true. woman bonds as strongly as what men does. women bonds in so many ways, from good times and some bad times and if we do. we really do it for life.
When women starts to bond as in the early ages, they treasure it for life. and they make sure they wont forget the connection that they have had started since childhood, sharing for everything from being a teenager to womanhood. And even how to raise their own children. woman bonds in so many ways not only for fun. maybe u say this bec. of ur own experience. NOT TRUE MY DEAR, WOMAN IS STILL THE BEST CONFIDANTE IF U FIND THE TRUE ONE. HEAPS.....

Answer 5

maybe because women spend alot more time on thier physical attraction, and if another woman happens to be more attractive, i guess a girl can feel just a little jealuse and if you have a man...you dont want your man to think shes prettier then you. but guys will actually get into a fight if a guy tried hitting on a taken girl. so maybe most guys like to let it be and jus respect one anothers space? haha i dont know but i think that might be 1 reason.

Answer 6

I think you may be idealising the so called 'bonding'.. never seen guys competing over females? never seen best friends splitting over females? All'n'all I try not to let the projected stereotypical images of sweaty males bonding playing basketball cloud my understanding, just like I don't buy the idea of one pussycat fangs out to scratch another, if you catch my drift...

Answer 7

because I think males end up like realizing that sex and beauty is not a big deal....only the feeling...

ok, let me explain:

-women have a more "emotional" connection in a relationship with a man, so they prize "men." Partly because women admire the "power" and determination and security another man provides. Women view this 'relationship' as their "zion on a hill" and they can only have it with a man. Because other women cannot "appreciate" other women as do men---they NEED to be NEEDED, so they get it from the admiration and appreciation of men.

-on the other hand, men have "emotional" connections such as those, all the time, and they don't "prize" as much as women...they can have such a relationship..without having the 'distraction' of sex, with another man... they get admiration from games and when their fellow team-mates pat them on the back for a good job, or when they fail or "break up" their buddies are always there to support them...
what men prize with women AT FIRST...is the "sexual relatinship"..this is THEIR prize...they are not seeking to be appreciated...its not a competition...its just like winning a game....because common, you can have an emotional appreciation with a man, as much as with a women...its hypocritical to say the opposite.

however, with time, as men mature and become more "connected" and appreciate the emotional aspect of a relationship with a women, because it is more private...you can show your feelings and some of your inner sorrows with someone---you can do with a man, but your not as comfortable as with a women...they also realize that women are very very FAITHFUL..(in most cases relative to men), as a support of friendship...when a women really really loves you, she will defend you no matter what...so they cherish and then end up PRIZING this type of relationship more than the sex and more than the relationship with their buddies...

this sometimes, causes friction...because when abuddy gets married...he cannot be with his other buddies...and "have the fun" on the weekends...so buddies feel they are loosing a friend....and in many cases, the man, forgoes these relationships...for the more personal relationship with a women...

once the buddies all get married however...they all have "secret" sunday reunions and the "bond" comes back...they have a "re-vival" of old times. I think actually old men have a more fun time than youngsters because they are not as stressed out about school, work, or having sex, which with time, you realize that if you just view as sex as sex (the animalistic part of it), you realize its no better than masterbation, and thus, your need subsides and you become more spiritual about it over tiem (men)...eventually just another "fun" passtime like playing gold but better at times.

however, this bond is due to the "closeness" of being in the same position throughout...having to face the baseball game and losing or winning...having this...its facing TOGETHER a set of obstacles..winning over a beautiful girl is just another obstacle to be proud of....while I think women sometimes PRIZE the male RELATIONSHIP so much, and need so BADLY to be appreciated at times, that they inwardly resent each other...this is not THE NORM---but I think it adequately describes about some women to women relationships.

its also cuz society in many ways is very uptight about sex, and if we were mroe casual about it--maybe women would not have all the hang ups of today.

but whatever, I think women can have a lot of very tight bonds as well, not only men--I am just talking about my experiences...because I am a man---yes, your buddies and what you go through with your buddies, is very strong indeed...for the reasons mentioned above.

No, I am not an old man, its just my insights and intuition (I am 20).

Answer 8

The trouble with being a girl is having girls as friends.