Why do straight girls give us lesbians mixed signals at times?

Question

Why?

Answer 1

I think its because a part of them wants to have the experience and are curious. But being that so many people say its wrong they don't come out and say it up front. I have straight friends that want to try it with a girl but dont know how to go about it and still remain "straight."

Answer 2

I previously took a speech class at the college, and I learned a few things about how communication works. There were a few lessons about the send/receive concept where people may send out a message, and another person will receive a different message, because they have enterpreted it wrong.

So, it isn't so much that they are sending mixed signals, it is that you are misunderstanding their communication.

Misunderstandings can come from nearly anything.

Cultural, subcultural, regional cultural, etc differences, even diferences as micro as steming from one community of friends to another and their social dynamics.

Communication is a two way deal, and most people like to believe its all the responsibility (and the fault) of the other person. However, if you want to receive clear messages, you have to ask clear questions, and clarification questions. If you are worried that they will be offended by your questions, well, then if you misunderstand them, its still a two player deal, and you didn't carry out your end of the communication either by not asking for clarification in the first place.

No, i'm not trying to knock you down, just trying to draw clear pictures. I for one, have been involved in several uncomfortable and major misunderstandings in the past. I take every chance I get to learn more about effective communication, because i've realized my responsibility in at least making an effort to foster and encourage effective communication.

Wishing you the best of interactions,
-Gabriel

PS I really liked what Jez had to say. Very good input there. ^_~

Answer 3

Don't feel bad... straight girls give guys mixed signals too... it's just the nature of women. I'm sure you've given other lesbians mixed signals sometimes.

Answer 4

Sorry, Dont Know. But where I come from, Girls are not worried about normal physical contact time to time. May you can tell us what would classify as giving signal. It will help me understand!

Answer 5

They like to validate that they are pretty or desirable, even at someone else's expense. Some straight guys do it too. I'd rather they are able to take a compliment than be totally homophobes though.

Answer 6

You are projecting your subconcious desire to attract 'straight' girls into your life by seeing 'signals' that are not there. Somehow if a straight girl were to be interested in you, you would feel more 'feminine' or 'normal'.....

Answer 7

I flirt with anyone, it doesn't have to mean anything if it is mutually friendly. Maybe you're seeing signals that aren't there, or people are just projecting their natural flirtation to you.

Answer 8

A lot of people are flirts...especially straight girls. they like to have others notice them wheather the others are guys or gals, they want to be noticed so they flirt...or send signals to get ur attention.

Answer 9

Because they consider you lesbian girls as BOYS to be teased just for their amusement. Just to see if you also will follow them around like a sick love puppy. Games they play all the time.

Answer 10

well, i'm not a girl, but it seems logical that the "straight" girls are curious about being with another girl. they think they are ready to try it, but then decide they aren't.