I'm a friendless preppy boy, i like emo/punk people and generally everyone but i dont seem to make any kind of bond with people. Is that bad? I've been described as heartless and cold or to use a common nickname "monster" but i dont know. I dont think i'm a bad guy. Just different and maybe a little strange.
2006-11-15 17:46:04 · 6 answers · asked by john s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There's nothing wrong with it, but it's just a lonely way to live. I don't know about you, but wouldn't you rather have 5 good friends than 100 acquaintances? That way, you know there'll be always someone you can count on. If you're having trouble making friends, it's probably because you're just not meeting the right people. Most of the time, people click because they have similar interests or personalities. I don't know how old you are, but if you are in college or high school, I'd suggest joining a club. You'll meet lots of people who have the same interests as you. Also, just because you don't have any "actual" friends doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. You just have to try harder to put yourself out there and talk to as many people as possible. YOU have to take the initiative. Don't wait for others to make plans, YOU make plans with them. For example, invite a bunch of them to a football game. Pretty soon, it'll become a ritual.
In addition, be sure to keep in mind how you're acting to new people. Have a warm smile and make sure your body language is friendly and inviting. Listen to what they have to say and ask them questions, but put in a little something about yourself too. Try to find common ground too..talk about stuff that you BOTH like. Hope this helps!
2006-11-15 17:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not strange at all. Many people are like that. I work as a salesman and have many casual aquaintences. Most of the people who regard me as a friend are unaware of my true nature. I am concerned about money, and not much else. It is important to build relationships, but do it in a way to be sure you always have the upper hand. True friends should be the least f your worries.
2006-11-15 17:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand. I moved to California 3 years ago. I only have "friends" at work. I never give anyone my phone number, never hang out with them, I only see them at work. They are always begging me to hang out, but I just don't want to. There have also been times I have thought I could be friends with someone, and I will invite them over, and within the first ten minutes I always wish I had not done it. I start thinking of other things I could be doing. I am a totally outgoing person, and love all people, and get along exceptionally well with everyone and everyone likes me, but that just seems to be as far as it goes.
2006-11-15 17:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Evelynne B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey preppy having no friends is not bad or means u r a bad guy but I think u want someone who can be ur friend that's y u choose this category to describe ur feelings to others.
And sorry to call u preppy.
2006-11-15 18:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by Fahim . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It"s not wrong to not have close friends but it can be lonley. You seem to know yourself and what keeps people away from you, so you are aware of some changes you will have to make if you want to draw true friends to you and not away from you.
2006-11-15 17:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Neetaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will grow to a more personable person
2006-11-15 17:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋