My best friend is a lesbian and she told me that she has feelings for me... Long story short we are getting together within the next 24 hours to talk about our feelings. I love her and I never want to loose her. I want to try dating her but I dont want to hurt her ever. How should I communicate this to her with out sounding stupid. I want to be with her but I dont want to hurt her and I think that if we dont try being together that we will both regret it in our futures. I am not scared about losing her as a friend and I have been doing a lot of thinkin and I want her next to me. I want to be the one to hold her when she is down and I want to be the hand she has to hold when its cold. I have never felt this way for a female before so I guess that is why it is harder than usual. When I am near her I just want to hold her and kiss her soft lips and drift away into a place for just the two of us. Help me think of the right words to use to tell her I want to try this with her.
2006-11-15 17:40:30 · 11 answers · asked by tigerlike8585 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know i need to tell her but my problem is with the words to use. I know the points to get acrossed because they wont go away but when I want to say them out loud they get all scatterbrained and mixed in the shuffle and i dont want to confuse her but i want her to know that i care about her and love her enough to try this with her
2006-11-15 18:02:25 · update #1
just tell her whats in your heart. It will know the words. The fact you are so nervous is not only the right way to feel but darn cute. That's how most women feel at first. Being with a woman is the best feeling in the world. When you are all shy and giggling. then a small shaky kiss.. Aw to be young and new again.
Just tell her what you just said and you will do fine sugar
2006-11-15 17:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is say what ever it is that you want to. You can't make this moment perfect. If anything it's just cute how nervous you are. Some of the most perfect things and moments have the biggest imperfection, but that's what makes it perfect!
Just be honest to yourself and her with your words
Good Luck darl! xoxoxo
2006-11-16 08:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for this conv in 24 hours have some dental dams within reach. if you tell her all this you're doin it. just fight the lezbo urge to merge. doing a lot too soon has ruined a few relationships for me. btw after about a year together, my best friend came out to me as str8 and we're still friends.
2006-11-16 01:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did a great job saying it right there! I'm horrible with words too. writing it down might help. That way if you mess up you can always erase.
2006-11-16 16:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put it this way: imagine yourself having sex with her. Do you smile or do you cringe? And IMHO you sound like you would smile (Aawww...) Just make sure you don't end up like the star in the movie "Kissing Jessics Stein"
2006-11-16 01:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by gathererofknowledge 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just made my eyes water a bit. Like that other person said, you just answered your own question, love.
2006-11-16 01:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awww thats cute... You just said everything that you need to say to this lucky girl : ) You need to explain that your ready and this is what you want... I am sure she will be stoked and everything will be good.... The best of luck
2006-11-16 02:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Shes a Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had no question to ask doll.
You answered it yourself.
Just say everything you said then.
She'll think it's beautiful.
2006-11-16 01:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
just show her your question.........and good luck to you both! p.s. I married my best friend!
2006-11-16 02:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by ginap 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell her
2006-11-16 01:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋