How do you convince yourself that you are pretty?

Question

I have blonde hair.. blue eyes.. but i have ears that stick out and a weird facial structure (i think) and when I take pictures (most of the time) i see a very ugly, fat faced girl. However i have never been told that i'm ugly.. and a lot of people think i'm beautiful (they have told me.. i don't see it tho, not at all.) i just think i'm the ugliest person in the world.. i obviously need help in that department, self-esteem wise. what are some tricks or tips or advice you'd give to a 19 year old girl who feels this way? i've been struggling with my ugliness ever since i was a little girl.. i've never felt "pretty" or "normal".. please.. help!! also, these are 2 of the best pics ive ever taken.. every other pictures are awful.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v313/marjiew/marjie3-1.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v313/marjiew/marjie1.jpg

Answer 1

You are not ugly, girl. You may want to talk to a counselor about this problem of yours, but stay away from antidepressants! They are addictive and cause abnormalties in the chemical processes of your brain. And if you smiled, you would look very pretty. Talk to someone about it in a messenger thing or to a couselor who you know for sure wouldn't be saying things like, "Oh, don't be rediculous! You're beautiful!" like something a best friend or parent would tell you. However, I usually find that this makes people feel worse about themselves. My best advice: talk to a counselor.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

My daughter also struggled with what she thought was her ugliness ever since she was a young girl. She wouldn't even look in the mirror except with the lights off, or at a great distance, and she too never felt pretty or normal, but like you she is a very beautiful girl. This year she began to let go of some of these feelings because she realized she had a problem and because she began talking about it to those whom she felt she could trust. I think she has Body Dismorphic Disorder, and low self-esteem is a trademark of those with BDD as they feel like colossal failures for their perceived physical flaws. Look up some of the web sites about BDD and see if they describe you. If not then do another web search by typing in key words like low self-esteem, feel ugly, and see what pops up. A lot of these sites have suggestions, or advice on what to do. No two people are alike and what might work for one person may not work for another so do research and then take the advice that is right for you. It never helped my daughter when I told her she was beautiful it actually made her mad at me. So it can't come from someone else it has to come from you. I remember feeling like that when I was younger too, as a dog had bitten me and it scarred my face, and I really was obsessed about it. I'm older now, but I remember I stopped worrying about it in my twenties. It just didn't matter anymore to me. I probably exhausted myself out about it. Anyway, I hope you get to feeling better about yourself. Hugs.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with you. It sounds like you have felt this way for a long time, eh? I don't see a fat faced girl at all. IF that is your concern, remember this: as you get older, your face thins out quite a bit. Would you rather look like a skull? That is what makes for an ugly picture. If your face is too thin it picks up on more shadows and you end up looking really old. Also, as far as the "ugly" thing you talk about, you really need to ask yourself: How many people out there are actually ugly? (Think of ugly as a synonym for scary...) Most people are not ugly, and you certainly are not ugly. Everyone has at least one great quality: a great smile, beautiful eyes, cute butt, tiny waist...something!!! I find it hard to believe that you have no great qualities physically...Play up what you like and to hell with the stuff you don't...Don't buy into that magazine crap. Magazines are designed to make women insecure. Remember, confidence is always sexy...

Answer 5

A lot of times, I have been self consious about certain parts of my body, especially my teeth (I have a MAJOR underbite) but every once in a while, somebody calls me pretty online or even in person. My friends have fought each other for a turn at playing with my hair (and even smelling it O_o).
But like I said, even I have these moments when I look at myself and I feel so ugly, but we ALL get that way.
From what I can see, you are very pretty and all you need to do is gain some confidence in yourself. Brush your hair out of your eyes, keep a good posture, and smile. I think you'll be just fine.

Answer 6

beauty is subjective thing. What might be beautiful to one person might be ugly to another. I am not going to say u luk pretty, bcoz me saying it might make u feel gud for sumtime, but ultimatly u have to feel beautiful frm inside. Wen a person has an attractive personality, then it reflects on the outer self too, and ppl r attracted to u... remember ppl r attracted to ppl who r confident and exude positivity....we cant change our face but we can work on our personality. Everyone cannot b a supermodel after all. As for the photgraphs, some ppl r more photogenic then others, my pics r never gud...but oflate i have discovered a particular expression tht makes my pics attarctive.

Answer 7

everyone is self critical about themselves even supermodels find flaws with themselves.i saw your pics and you are a pretty girl.You can't waste you time waiting for everyone to validate your looks, you can only do that yourself from the inside or you will be very unhappy, you need to have self confidence in yourself it's the only way you will feel beautifull both inside and out, which takes times.you have to be happy and comfortable with yourself to have any happiness in your life.i know from experience

Answer 8

You dont look ugly ok. Feel better?

Its a psychological problem which you need to work through. Just learn to love yourself & learn to cut out the opinions of others.

Answer 9

no, listen. you are beautiful. physically. i say that in a shallow sense b/c i don't know much anything else about you. this idea that you have is a belief. if you repeat a lie enough times, you will start to believe it. this is a ''truth'' that you have formed in your mind. it's not founded on reality. def. smile more. and remember, contentment does not rely on a state of posessions or environment, it's a state of mind. you can't get it by chasing it. ...wanna go out sometime? :-)

Answer 10

as an objective observer, i say you look pretty. however, what you're feeling is not based in any reality, but rather in your own mind. some counseling is probably the best thing you could do for yourself.