Ok. I seem to have a strange version of ED. I am 28 and have no problem getting an erection when I am alone or with certain partners (typically when I am in a long term relationship and I am comfortable--meaning after a few months, its no problem to get an erection). That being said, when I am with a woman for the first time, or even the first few times, I can't for the life of me get it up. I have tried everything...have a few drinks, take viagra, cialis, even smoke a little pot to relax me...NOTHING works. My nerves I guess are taking over, but I can't get an erection the first few times I try to be intimate with a woman. This is obviously embarrasing. Why aren't these drugs working!!
2006-11-15 16:46:33 · 11 answers · asked by micg70 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Have you tried talking to a urologist?
2006-11-15 16:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rasta 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear friend ,
i am having the same problem which you facing and believe me it happens with me since long time i will really appreciate if you find out any solution for this problem you will share with me.
also try to eat those items which enhance the potency level such as Egg,vanila ice cream,blueberry steaks etc etc
it wil work no worries and stop thinking about this problem automatically you will get the resulsts.
also dont do masterbation because this is also the main cause of this problem becuse due to too much masterbation the masules of penis really effected may be now you not doing too much but earlier in you teenage you did alot so be carefull and trust me just concentrate on you diet you will get hte good results
take care and enjoy the life as much as you can
2006-11-15 18:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Elton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few things in your questions stood out. Alcohol and pot both affect your performance ..... in a bad way. So quit those. Shouldn't be mixing those with Viagra or any other medications for that matter. Second could be a performance anxiety issue with a new person. Are you taking your time getting to know the person? Is there romance? Mood setting? Could be time to talk to a urologist to rule out other problem as well. Good luck.
2006-11-15 16:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you feel that only ED drugs are the only solution to your 'problem?'
You could be overly anxious for a person of your age at 28+?? having this problem. Learn to relax and let nature takes its course. Be more romantic...sensuous etc.. if you no what i am elaborating?
2006-11-15 18:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by BernT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your ED is psychological and not organic. That's the bad news. Organic ED can be treated with drugs, but psychological ED requires personal work.
It sounds like you have performance anxiety. Lots of men have it as it is during sex that we are most vulnerable to women.
One thing to try is to satisfy your partner first with oral sex. That can take the pressure off of you to perform. Also, communicate with your partner about what is going on for you so they don't feel like it is them if it happens. Most women are far less critical than we are about this stuff.
Good luck!
2006-11-15 17:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by taotemu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a good man and you need more than just a one nite stand and to get to know a woman before you become personal enough to have sex. There is totally nothing wrong with that.
When my boyfriend and I became intimate, he had the same problem. He just needed to get to know me better and feel comfortable with me before he could relax enough to engage in intimacy on that level with me. I thought he was the kindest, sweetest most wonderful person I had ever met and we actually did not have "successful" intercourse until we had known each other for about 4 or 5 months. We tried to have sex, but he could not stay erect long enough to penetrate or sometimes, he could get erect, but not stay that way. Finally, I just lay with him and let him know it was ok, even if it never happened. He finally got over whatever it was and we have great sex all of the time now.
Dont pressure yourself. You will be ok. Your just going to be a great guy for a beautiful girl some day.
2006-11-15 16:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need any drugs. they won't work anyway. You need many treatments with chinese acupuncture needles to strengthen your kidney YANG energy & relax your nerves.
You will be fine - I know it - You are lucky it's not a physiological problem & you are not yet entering andropause.
2006-11-15 19:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its because you like men, so you know, women just aren't quit doing it for you. Next time you cant get a *****, just slam it in a door until it cooperates, that'll show it who's boss.
2006-11-15 16:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by mad hatter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just nervous about having sex. Long tern relationships are better because both people are able to fully relax. You are used to each other and you know what to expect. Stick with those long term relationships for more enjoyable sex.
2006-11-15 16:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cause you were supposed to be born a chick
2006-11-15 16:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Octopus Rex 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋