My good friend just got proposed to, and I thought she was going to choose me as a maid of honor because we are fairly close. But the other day she said that she is good friends with this other girl and all this other stuff, and she hasnt decided yet who is going to be. Im kind of dissapointed because I thought I would be even her fiance thought so. The other day she printed some papers from the internet as to what calendars and things to follow before she gets married and maid of honor duties and other things, and she gave me the papers, doesnt mean she is going to pick me. Anyways can she have to maid of honors? because I think she is going to that or Im not even sure. If in the end she doesnt decide for me I would be sad. Anyways can ppl have 2 maid or honors?
2006-11-15 16:44:45 · 9 answers · asked by Patricia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not USUAL to have two Maids of Honor, but it is her wedding day, and if she has two friends she feels equally close to then why should she not choose both of you. It would be easy if one of you were married and the other single, then there could be a Matron of Honor (married) and a Maid of Honor (single) and no one would be jealous or have hurt feelings. If she chose both of you, you could walk down the aisle side by side, or even "flip for it" if who stands next to her matters. The main thing is seeing that you two help your friend as much as possible.
It is a good feeling to know that your friend values you. It would be really flattering to know that you were her first choice for this honor, however, keep in mind that sometimes people choose someone for a position like that because they are family, or because of some unknown reason that you may not be aware of. The fact that she considers you should make you feel good.
Now, the main thing! It is HER day. Do you consider her your best friend? Do you really want to help her have a wonderful wedding day and help make things easier for her. Then, don't get hurt feelings since she is undecided what to do about this one issue. She may be feeling a little overwhelmed at the moment since there is lots of planning to do. Maybe she feels the other person is so sensitive they will be hurt if not chosen. Who knows. Will there be bridesmaids? Will some of them be jealous if you are chosen?
Just tell her that you are happy for her and wish her a long and happy life. Tell her you want to help in any way that you can, all she needs to do is let you know what you can do to help. AND MEAN IT! That is what being a real friend is, not pouting about whether she will choose you or someone else. Set aside your feelings and help make the day great for your friend. She will appreciate it and you will never be sorry that you really tried your best to help her no matter what your title is.
2006-11-15 17:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by kathy s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can have as many maid of honors as you want. I would ask your friend if you can help with wedding arrangements and get very
involved, the more she knowes you are there to help the more likely she will pick you.
2006-11-15 16:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her wedding she can do whatever she wants. She could have a monkey if she chose. lol! Mayb u should just tell her that u would really b proud to b her maid of honor but u respect whatever decision she makes. ya know lay on the guilt! ha!
2006-11-15 16:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be good if she has 2 maid of honors if she feels both of you are her close friends. If she picks the other one, then by all means act as if you are not such a close friend to her as indicated by her actions.
2006-11-15 18:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. You can do what ever you want in your wedding.
I had a maid of honor and a matron of honor at mine.
I hope she picks you. Good luck.
2006-11-15 16:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, she can have 2 mainds of honor, they would both have to work together for the maid of honor duties
2006-11-15 16:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by ParadoxZero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see why not. it sounds like that would be a good idea in this situation and it's her wedding. i had 2 best men in my wedding. you really shouldn't take it personal and i hope it doesn't affect your relationship if you are not chosen.
2006-11-15 16:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by jahrells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it is her wedding-she can have what she wants.
2006-11-15 16:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya it would not be usual...
2006-11-15 16:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by ruth r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋