my parents are being manipulative and fake and i dont know what to do?

Question

hi...my bf is black and my parents are ridiculously racist....we are terribly in love tho....when i told them that he is black. (i didnt tell them right from the start cuz i wanted the relationshp to get steady).... to my surprise they were completely calm and accepting about it...later i found out however that they knew my email/instant message passwords and therefore knew all about my bf even BEFORE i had told them.....so...therefore....the... put on a farce.....my bf and i are in a long distance relationship....(plz dont come up to me tellin me long distances never work out..lol....i know my bf....and he knows me too) and my parents have subtly been doing things to prevent us from seeing each other.....they have done something similar to this in the past....and when i confronted them about it they promised that they would never do it again and that they loved me and blablabla......so i kno that talking to them about it isnt gonna help. I am turning 18 in about a month

and when i do i am planning on moving in with my bf cuz im tired of their manipulative, kniving evilness...the only thing im worried about tho is that my dad can cut off my colllege tuition and decide not to pay for my college education unless if i break up with him and cut off all communication with him and move back in with my parents.....WHAT CAN I POSSIBLY DO!! i go to a college that provides really bad financial aid...and i highly doubt that id be academically qualified for a scholarship....ahhhh plz help!

whoever said i would ditch college for my bf?? are u ppl crazy??? i have the right to have both an education AND a bf whom i love and i wont settle for less....what kind of job can i get that would pay me a high enough salary to support me financially? any ideas would greatly be appreciated...thnx

Answer 1

Your parents probably do love you and think they are helping you and they most likely want grandbabies the same race that they are. Remember your parents are a product of their upbringing and children of that time were more obedient to their parent’s wishes then children of today so they tend to think more like them then kids today think like their parents. Let’s talk about school because if you can get tuition for it then you can do what you want in one month. Scholarships are not only all about grades they give them out for all kinds of things and some of them will surprise you. It will take some searching on the web but can be found as I found some a few months ago. If that does not pan out can you transfer to another school where you might be entitled to financial aid? That way you could live closer to your boyfriend. Just suggesting this move might be enough for your parents to leave you alone when they stop to think of you being able to see him everyday and growing closer. If you don’t live at home and your parents will not foot the bill it is easier to get financial aid so if you do move out try applying again. ♫

Answer 2

Confront your folks about the betrayal and sneaking around. If they are truly racist, and you are truly in love, there will be no seeing eye to eye. If they just worry about their daughter and her getting into something so serious so young, then you need to understand that that is what parents do. The reality is that even if you don't work out with this bf, you will probably date another black guy in the future...right? You're attracted to black men. If your parents are racist, they may never accept him, and you will just have to protect him from them. You have to accept your parents. You can't change them. You don't have to like it, but you can keep your man away from something that hurts all of you. I'm sorry, it's very unfortunate. Try to get them to understand....a

Answer 3

i would say they cant stop love they are wrong for cutting off college nomatter what just wrong .if they dont like him well they may fill he is not right but i think if they let you be and it was
wrong you would leave him fast but this will just make you want what you cant have more .he could get a job and pay for your college and you and your parents just not get along what is more important mom and dad or this person ,you know if or when you get out of college they will still try to control the situation .its like you will havre to save money and hide it so they dont know you got it or they will figure a way to make you spend it so you cant get ahead and still have to listen to them .this is a bad thing parents and family do .

Answer 4

It's a few fact combined in with plenty of staging, facet cues and set-ups (Survivor). Producers can sway a exhibit like that within the path they wish it to head. American Idol's winner final 12 months was once in a band and had an album recorded a couple of years prior that went off the charts for the duration of the exhibit. I suppose that made him a pacesetter instantly. Never noticed the Bachelor, the idea makes me sick. A bunch of gold digging, immoral men and women. At least I think it's. Please, like those men and women particularly wish a husband/spouse - they wish repute and or cash,

Answer 5

No bf is worth giving up a future. Use your parents to get yourself started and if that means leaving your bf then do it. After you graduate college then go find another bf.

Answer 6

if you can't break up with your bf then you must find a job immediately! and finance yourself for a college education. otherwise..it's better to be secured by your parents than just with a guy. come on...be mature and practical!

Answer 7

Get the education first. Don't risk not getting that college money. If it is true love, he will wait!!

Answer 8

If you want mommy and daddy to continue to financially support you, then you have to do what they tell you to.

If you don't, then move out and support yourself.