And starts ranting about their now grown children not liking me. I ignored her for a long time, but I finally told her what I felt. You know, I believe she still wants my husband even though she's remarried. Your thoughts?
2006-11-15 15:59:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They've been divorced for 12 years.
2006-11-15 16:02:44 · update #1
I would have to agree. It doesn't matter what is happening in your or her life, it's not fair to be doing that to the children even if they're grown. She's sounds manipulative, and needs to move on from any resentment she may have towards you or her ex.
2006-11-15 16:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by kikib731 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, well she's probably threatened by you...after all you have her "ex" husband...who knows the reasons they split..maybe she always loved him but he wronged her or didn't meet her expectations...not standing up for her but I'm just saying sometimes relationships end and there is "unfinished business"...ie some things never got resolved even though they parted...and so now here they both are remarried...and children are a hard thing to share...maybe she does still feel something for your husband...maybe she just resents the fact he might treat you better than he treated her...sometimes people don't always take things out on the right people...she shouldn't be taking it out on you...unless she does so because she feels insecure...perhaps she feels she might lose her kids to you too....divorce is never easy....neither is re-marriage...it's too bad relationships have to go that way...you guys should really be friends, despite it all. You've both remarried so she should be past that. I'm assuming you don't do anything to make her feel insecure or make her feel like you are a better parent to her kids etc.? It's a two way street sometimes, and then again, some people are just jerks no matter what...can't really come up with a true to life answer for you but maybe just some insight as to the types of feelings I think may arise between two people in your situation. Some people never get to be good at coping with life so you have to be sympathetic to that too and not feed the fire as it will just come back to burn you, you know?
2006-11-15 16:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her that if she has no reason to be making any contact with you. Any phone calls, IM, e-mails keep them and tell her you will file charges if the harassment continues. As for whether her grown children like you or not, i would not worry about that. That is her talking and she sounds like a lot of hot air.
2006-11-15 16:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
button: It's the old game called, "I don't want him but I don't want you to have him, either". These types of people, are real trouble -BIG time! They are a real pain in the a*s !!! Their objective is to infiltrate your relationship with their ex and cause jealousy and havoc hoping to undermine the love you have for one another. Don't trust her ... she's a bi*ch for this. Now you know why your husband dumped her ... don't you ?
2006-11-15 16:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your step daughter lives in her mother's home then her mother has every right to get on the computer. If you don't like dealing with her stop iming her daughter in her MOTHER'S home.
2006-11-15 16:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be psycho. If kids r grown why does she need to call your hse??
2006-11-15 16:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋