married 16 years to a scorpio that has been divorced twice, likes nothing more than to be mad 24/7. Truely tries to have everyone around him hate him.
I don't even think he likes himself. but,,,,, he loves his kids no matter what. good provider,responsible, no communication, no nothing, we even sleep apart.
2006-11-15 15:53:44 · 20 answers · asked by aquarian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
time for it to come to an end. Life is too short to be unhappy. Just tkae the step and file divorce
2006-11-15 15:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Life is to short to spend mierable and alone. Maybe you could write down things you like about each other and follow by something that needs to be fixed. Possibly without scraming or fighting thats gets you nowhere. If that doesnt help bring you a little closer maybe you should try seperating for a while without the option of other partners. You know what they say abbsence makes the heart grow fonder. Try to work it out 16 years is alot of time to invest in a relationship. Think before you give up. Oh one more thing never evere say anything out of anger you cant take it back. Trust me on that one.
2006-11-15 16:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by chenelle o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I have been married to my husband for 6 years now, and we've been having some tough times, too. You've got to try to wear out all of your options before doing something drastic like divorce. I'm a firm believer that all of the trials and hardships in life are part of our education, and that they can all be overcome, resulting in our becoming better, stronger individuals.
I know feminists are not going to like this, but start with yourself. I'm not suggesting that it is or isn't your fault that your relationship isn't going well, but all change starts with "me". Start doing little things for yourself, and little things that you know he likes. Suggest going to a movie or something to have some time alone. Dr. Phil has a good book called "Relationship Rescue" and it does NOT require both people to read the book.
Please try whatever you can (within reason, of course) before considering divorce. However, if you can't develop a healthy home environment for your kids, it would be better to divorce than to have your children grow up to think that this is what all marriages are like.
I wish you the best...God bless.
2006-11-15 16:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an actor. A passive-aggressive. He shows the world one side and shows you another. I'm familiar with this type of emotional abuser.
There's not much to save. You're within your rights to leave and start a better life elsewhere.
Good luck.
2006-11-15 16:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read a great book on whether or not to leave a relationship. i think it was called Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay. I think the woman who wrote it is named Mira Kirchenbaum (i might be spelling the last name wrong but you've got the idea) i hope it is helpful. however, i must say that he sounds very angry; that can be very hard to deal with. if he isn't willing to work on himself at all, my vote would be to seriously consider leaving. i wish you well.
2006-11-15 15:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 16 tears (years) i would say it's about time for a change, at this stage they will never change, you just have to make up your mind if you want to get old with some one like that.....
2006-11-15 15:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by funguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you have tried everything/talking-doctor-counselling-attorney-/and nothing happens0then /get out of there. while you still can.
it is better to live on the rooftops than inside with a wicked woman/man.
book of proverbs.
2006-11-15 15:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by oceandollhouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling. Astrological sign has nothing to do with your lack of trust, lack of communication skills and lack of maturity to deal with your own marriage.
2006-11-15 15:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe outside forces are creating that enviroment, have you talked? And if not that, then ya the love may not have died but the spark went out. Dont cry because its over , smile because it happened.
2006-11-15 15:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by kiti4u 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
horoscopes mean nuthin, if thats where u are looking for answers no wonder u r having problems, I read somebody thier horoscope once daily for a month and he agreed with wut it said, til i told him i was reading him mine, he thot it wise to look for wisdom somewhere else, y did u marry this man? find help and stick it out, the problem cud be you, not saying it is but u have alot of complaints about him, if he was asked wut wud he say about u, if we clean our own yards first then many times we can help another
2006-11-15 15:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by menguss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋