I have always been a person of good judgement thru out life it is what got me to where iam in life but i got this boyfriend/babydad who wants to try to trat me like his daughter instead of his gurl it is annoying because I am grown and i know how to conduct my life! Let me not forget to add that we have a 2 month old son together. What he is doing is turning me off I dont want to see the relationship end over this and that is what will happen because i hate for someone to try to control me i need control of me what do i do? i love him but I fear the end is near and I want to try save this union!
2006-11-15 15:22:01 · 12 answers · asked by yousexythangyou 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I truly understand because my husband responds to me sometime like I'm his daughter and I take offense to it all of the time. I try to respond with a smile and a joke and he gets the point, but if I don't think first before I speak I will hurt is feelings. I love him very much and I do all I can to keep the peace in my family. I put it in God's hands and ask Him to help us both.
2006-11-15 16:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Neetaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sophisticated: Women generally marry their "father" types. Why did you bring a child into the world when you knew he was like this ? Now; you have a child (son) to nurture. You need marriage counselling ! This can save your marriage at this point in the relationship. If your boyfriend doesn't want to go - YOU go alone, without him ! You also may need to go to your family doctor and get checked for depression, which is very common after giving child birth. Your boyfriend more likely than not, is attempting to mold you into the type of mother he thinks you should be for his son. This can drive you "nuts" as it takes away your individuality from you. Talk with your husband and tell him, that he knew what you were like before the baby came into your lives, and he will have to accept you as you ARE now ! Tell your husband, that you feel like leaving him when he treats you this way and that you really mean it ! Your son doesn't deserve to be raised in a battle field for a marriage but your son NEEDS a nurturing enviorment to thrive in. Good luck to you !!!
2006-11-15 15:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Union? Marry him if you want a union. But anyway, study how his father acts, most guys can't help but be like their own dad, or try to be just the opposite. This will give you a big clue to his behavior. Maybe it's just his awkward way of protecting you and his love child. If you thought about it differently you might appreciate it and patiently wait for chances to work through the issue over time.
2006-11-15 15:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mine did the same thing until I finally told him flat out, "I had a father but he is now deceased. I don't need another one".
You need to tell him how much this bothers you and he needs to act like your partner instead of your parent.
Give him some time to change as old habits die hard but don't slack on the reminders, should he cross the line.
2006-11-15 15:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie67 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband acted like that at first. Always had to know where I was at , what I was doing,. Lay the law down with him tell him you are your own boss. While you respect his opion you are your own person and know whats best for you. I dont know all the details but I do know in most instances it only gets worse. Nip in the bud now.
2006-11-15 15:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by chenelle o 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u need to tell him just how you feel. dont wait fo a big explosion, tell him now. i agree u shouldnt be treated like a child but if u dont tell him then u are acting like one. adults always find a way to work things out if they are meant to be. im sorry for being so blunt about this but sometimes we need a good stiff kick in the a** to get us goin in the right direction.
2006-11-15 15:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by iamahotty36 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would get rid of him Quick,he sounds like a control freak and thats not a good relationship even if hes your babys father use your good judgement and listen to what your asking ,he isnt going to change for sure.
2006-11-15 15:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by sasyone 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Convence him that you need a bf not another dad
2006-11-15 15:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HAVE YOU TALKED TO HIM ABOUT THIS. DO SO NOW. YOU HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER SO THIS IS IMPORTANT TO BOTH OF YOU. WISHING YOU THE BEST.
2006-11-15 15:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
aww just be honest and tell him how you feel and tell him to stop treating you like that! good luck!
2006-11-15 15:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by sexymama06 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋