I still haven't told my mom that I want to become a girl! I really wanted to a little bit ago, and I want to so badly before I start growing a huge amount of facial hair. The facial hair growth is starting to kick in, and I need to start these hormones! Where should I tell her? I can't tell my dad, or he'd almost die. Please, someone help. I need to talk to someone about this. The most IMPORTANT thing to me right now is getting the hormones.
2006-11-15 15:03:31 · 10 answers · asked by Stephen 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You're probably gonna have to bare with being male until adulthood. I sincerely doubt your mom will be accepting. It's not fair but it's true. Then again I don't know your mom, she may be more accepting than I think mine would be, if you must tell her then try to get her on her own and make sure she knows how important it is to you.
2006-11-15 15:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rageling 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just can't become a girl by taking hormones. You have to have tons of counseling/therapy. This isn't something you do casually. Tell your Mom, so they can take you the therapist. There is a chance you might get to a place where you end up accepting the pluming you already have!
I was confused when I finally owned being gay. I thought that since I already had all these "girlie" feelings, that maybe I should just become one. Long story short, with therapy, positive sexual experiences, and growing up a little, I came to the decision that I liked my Male parts, even though I still feel girlie sometimes!
Being Gay is a very special gift!
Sylvia Browne (the psychic) says that we all choose our lives, our looks, body, all situations that we end up in before we ever come down here to earth from heaven. I'm not saying you have to believe this, but if you use this concept to ask yourself, "Hmmmmm why did I choose to be a guy when I really want to be a girl? What is this all about? Why did I choose this?" It gives a little more perspective on accepting things the way they are. Sylvia also says that people with a severe hate for they're body or sex might be because in heaven we get to run around with any look we want, including race, sex, etc. Also you might be carrying over your love for your body from a past life. These are all possible reasons why you may not be comfortable with this body (that you chose). Ask you self, why did you choose this body?
2006-11-15 23:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: Use PFLAG's transgender resources to find a good therapist in your area.
Step 2: Tell your parents that you're really struggling with some stuff and you need to talk to a therapist. Tell them that you'll tell them more when you're ready to.
Step 3: See the transfriendly therapist and talk to them for a while. When the therapist and you agree that it's time, bring your parents into one of those meetings and tell them in the presence of the therapist that can help with their concerns.
Step 4: With your parents on your side and your therapist's approval you can now start the physical aspects of transitioning.
I'm not guaranteeing that this will work. This is geared towards those people with parents that will really have problems with it. Some parents, like mine, just can't be persuaded. This will increase your chance of actually pulling it off though. Best of luck!
2006-11-16 00:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly believe that you are transgendered, then you will need to go through at least two years of counseling before any doctor will even think of starting the hormones. It is a long process, and a decision that cannot be taken lightly. This is the reason that they don't do the surgery before the age of 18. You do need to talk to your mom, and ask her to help you find a therapist. Good luck to you.
2006-11-16 00:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch transamerica at your next family movie night. then after a couple of days you can gauge the reactions of your family. get your mom alone and talk to her. it's not like getting boobs or botox. you need TONS of therapy and hormones. don't worry about the hair. if you really suffer from gender dysmorphia the hormones will work that out for you.
2006-11-16 01:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um.. i guess the best way to tell her is when your in a conversation with her and you think its the right time to tell her. You can never prepare yourself for what the parents might say, or think. its perfectly fine that you want to do that to! Shoot for the moon, becuz even if you miss you'll land upon the stars. In other words give it a shot, and if the worst happens some how you'll be in a ok place. and that first dude is a total jerk(don't listen to him.)
2006-11-15 23:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way of doing this. You will just have to sit down with her and tell her how you feel.
2006-11-15 23:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by suz' 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to just sit down with your mom and tell her about yourself. Tell her you love her but you have something you NEED to tell her alone, good luck
2006-11-15 23:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by Muffy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to ur mom
2006-11-17 00:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a hike
2006-11-15 23:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋