My boyfriend respects his parents a lot. I mean he does everything that they say. He is 24 and old enough not to do everything that they tell him to do. If his dad tells him no you can't, he will be ok with it and thats it....I am getting mad becuase it is affecting me. His parents wants us to live with them when we get married. And my bf is ok with it , I even talked to him about it but he didnt say anything. Its a long distance relationship and I want him to come here around Christmas break and he asked his parents and they said no because they dont see the point. So now he is like "oh I can't come". Also I love him, he is a great guy. What should I do?
2006-11-15 14:52:42 · 7 answers · asked by jena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh wow. This is completely a showing of the future if you two get married! Talk about tied to the apron strings. His parents are absolutely controlling him and he obviously doesn't want to end it. Is he living with them still? Maybe he has separation issues. Clingy to his parents...or feels like he has to obey because hes living there...
Ouch. Tread carefully here, cuz if he's 24 and still obeying, after marriage he's gonna be still obeying.
2006-11-15 14:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by trina_weena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 24 years old he should be old and mature enough to make a lot of life choices himself. He might still want to ask his parents opinion on some topics but he doesn't have to agree with them all. Respecting and obeying your parents is a very commendable thing, but I have 3 sons and if I ever said that they couldn't do something at their ages 21, 25 and 32 then I'd be laughed into the next century. They do ask for my advice and we discuss many things but they only want my opinion, not for me to make their choices for them. Do what you think is the right thing for you but I'm afraid that this sucker is perhaps a little too immature for marriage at present.
2006-11-15 23:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently he has a lots of respect for his parents,if he want to see them, than there are not anything that you can do about it, as for living with them when you get married that a horse of another color..
2006-11-16 13:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, unless you like having his parents control your relationship. It only gets worse as you get older. He needs to grow up, but it is not likely that he will anytime soon. You can't make him change, you can only decide how much you will tolerate.
2006-11-15 23:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to think about this one a bit longer . This guy seems really immature .
2006-11-15 23:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is financially dependent on his parents.
2006-11-15 22:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by eastcoastdebra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Killing is up there
2006-11-15 22:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by clownsguts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋