Do you think its tacky......we were considering it cause when we were married 6yrs ago, we could have the wedding that we would have liked, we had no money, familes fueding......and my mother-in-law hates me........after our 4yr anniversay and a new baby he left me and filed for divorce......we were seperated for a yr and later we decided to reconcile and now we have a 4mo old baby girl.....we have been through so much drama and i am still having problems with the MIL but he is actually starting to pull away from his mommy, so we were thinking if we can get past all this garabage we should renew our vows and celebrate it how we should have done 6yrs ago.....what do you guys think? Is it a waste of money since we have a 2yr old and 4 mo old? They will be 6 and 4 by then........
2006-11-15 14:50:54 · 12 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally dont think its silly or a waste of time at all. My wife and I are plannign on doing the same tihng on our 5th yr ann since like you we were unable to have the wedding we wanted to have.
I guess to put another spin on the wole idea if your love has held fast through all you have been throgh and you have found your way back to one another why not renew your vows and strenghten to bond you have and move on anew from that point out.
remember what they say about loving someone you should set them free if they come back to you its ment to be.
take the walk down the isle that you wanted to have even if it sems silly at the time you will find years from now that it will mean more than any thing elce you may do in your life
2006-11-15 15:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got married about a month ago, and I didn't have the wedding I would have liked either. It was beautiful, but...
My husband and I plan to renew our vows with a bigger ceremony/party when we are financially able to. Maybe five years, maybe ten.
I don't think it is tacky at all. If fact, given all that you have been through, I would definitely do it. If you are worried about money still, then just do something small again. It will mean just as much that you two are still married despite the bad times (which is what you signed on for, so I applaud both of you)
Your children are important to you, but they should not be a deciding factor in this. Yes they are young, but it is your marriage that will influence how their relationships work out.
Do the renewal. It will be good for your marriage.
2006-11-15 22:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is...why do you want tore new your vows? Is it to have the big wedding...if that is what it is, make sure you can really afford it...because financial strain is not good for a marriage. Is is because you want a big party? Then have a big party! Is it because you and your husband want to say those words to each other because you believe in each other? Then I would think it would be much more meaningful to do this in private...Just you and your children and a pastor. This would not be about anything but your love...simple as that....then a BIG party to celebrate!!! I just don't want to see more drama with a big price tag attatched for you and your family. By the way...congratulations on working out your problems and making a family from love. :) ps...maybe you could forget to invite MIL :)
2006-11-15 23:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
J do what ever makes you happy think thats a wonderful idea. and re commit yourself and share in the joys thus far. if you both want to why not. And no this is not a waste of money this is your marriage and something you want to celebrate over.
Back in the olden days our grandparents didn't get any of that either and some people I have read have a party of there dreams later or the ring comes later. so do what best for you and your hubby and never pay attention to what the world thinks your not there to please everyone else. thats between you and your guy under your own roof.
2006-11-15 23:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF the two of you feel that beyond all else nothing and no one can split the two of you up ever again, then no matter how the MIL feels, as long as the two of you are happy and love each other, GO FOR IT, renew your vows and have the wedding you always wanted.
2006-11-15 22:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by mumbles1373 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not a waste of money. I think you should do it. It will symbolize the new start you guys are trying to start.Not only that but you can get what you never had.
2006-11-16 01:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do more than consider, do it. My wife kept saying the same thing but never acted on it. Now we are going through a divorce.
2006-11-15 23:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it. If you can do it, go for it. It would be a lovely way to reaffirm your love and commitment to one another, and you deserve to have the wedding you always wanted.
2006-11-15 22:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tigregrrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely go for it. everyone deserves a nice wedding day. I think that if things go terribly or something bad happens...or if you just couldn't afford something nice, you should just do it! people will think it's sweet!
2006-11-15 23:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its a wonderful idea....so sweet, so romantic...my husband and are considering doing this b/c we went to the JOP to get married and would actually like to now have a ceremony....GOOOD LUCK
2006-11-15 23:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋