My brother was brutally murdered three years ago today. The guy who killed him got off. I dont feel that I'm getting over it. Help!
2006-11-15 14:45:13 · 11 answers · asked by sunsha 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Check out the Work of Byron Katie. Her homepage is here:
http://www.thework.com/
Her books are here:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1400045371/
I've seen her help people who have been through the most traumatic things you can imagine. There's even a place on her website where people can help facilitate you in the process:
http://www.thework.com/network/index.cfm
If you still don't "get it" after looking at the website and her books, don't hesitate to send her an email. I wish you the best.
2006-11-15 14:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way! Others have also the same or worse cases of grief, but they survive all along without taking the grief with them. Fate has done its work, anything could happen to anybody at any time, at any place. You are alive and have to continue living so leave grief alone. Let fate takes its own course, and you will save yourself from getting worse everyday. Oh yes, it may even kill if you keep up with your grief because it greatly disturb your body system and especially the mind!
2006-11-15 15:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Ibrahim A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know the one thing I hate that people say is you have to get over it.
Its hard....I lost my dad 40 years ago my mom did it and when I see her I feel anger. She spent 6 months in jail but took some one I loved dearly from me for jealousy. I am 46 and it has bothered me 40 years I have bi-polar 2 plus other things from this and I hate when my mother will say I don't know where you got that from.
2 years ago my 4yr old was raped by a 17 yr old niece and nothing happen to her I will never forget this either she lives across from me and I hate looking at her. She is not sorry. Never will be. I do not want to talk to her I am afraid of what I will do to her.
Sorry for the stories of mine just want you to know I kind of do understand.....To answer your question Yes it can eat you alive it has me but that is just the way I am and we are all different. You should talk to some one it can help release some of that anger..... Blood is thicker than water
2006-11-15 15:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this means eat you alive? I know your upset but you have not been taking care of yourself health wise. For 3yrs. your life has taken a change because of this. You have not slept, or eaten like you used to right? You have to move on with life. You have to start to take care of you now. You will get over this. I've been there too. And its so true that time does heal. Your brother would not want to see you do this to yourself. He has moved on and now you have to. Speak to your family doctor for some help as well. I think you feel alone in this and that makes it harder. You need someone to talk to and that can support your feelings. Everything is going to be fine.
Take care of yourself.
2006-11-15 15:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it to anyone who will listen. That is very important. You have to talk. When I lost the one true love of my life not too long ago, I thought I would soon be following him, even though I am only 26 years old. Then it finally sunk in that by holding all the pain in, I was not being true to him. He wouldn't want me to lie down and accept death. He would want me to live and live well. I will never be the same again. Pain that intense changes you, but, I have lived thru it, just as you will, if you will talk to many people, or, just one good friend, until the sharp side of the pain subsides. Good Luck to you!!!!!!
2006-11-15 14:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by pupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one gets off it only looks that way for now. Karma is the law of nature and if someone killed someone they will be killed themselves. It's not Gods wrath, its just the laws of material nature. What goes around comes around. For yourself I recommend finding truth reality our real purpose in this world. Really there is nothing else to learn in this world. Go to http://www.stephen-knapp.com Get the book The Key to Real Happiness and How the World was Created and Our purpose in it. This web is on Universal truths and how to become truly happy and even enlightened. It will answer all your questions in life which can give one peace.
2006-11-15 15:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you talk to the guy?
maybe overcomeing your fear and talking to him might help
you relize that he is a person and he made a mistake and he is verry sorry
hope that every thing turns out ok :)
2006-11-15 14:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya.. because it seeps away your life. try to tak to some one about it
2006-11-15 14:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce was brutal
2006-11-15 14:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and I don't know why
2006-11-15 14:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by goodtimesgladly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋