Two and one half years ago I met this guy who lives in my building. We became friends. We had an affair. He wanted me to live side -by side with his wife and not tell her anything. I became close to the daughter who is 2 now. I came and went into their apt and their life and now I feel guilty about the whole thing. He feels fine and wants me to "share him". He is not emotionally attached to me and promises me nothing in the future accept more time with his daughter and he will give me whatever time he can away from his wife when he has it. I feel strange being in such an arrangement and have told him to "count me out as a friend". Why am I not strong enough to get a person who is emotional involved in 'ME' ONLY????
I want to know how to stopmyself from getting into these strange arrangements right from the start.
2006-11-15 14:30:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
move to the other side of town. Block his calls. Put a profile on yahoo's dating site. Go on dates and only get involved with a great guy (or...guys) and move on, girl! You cannot continue this relationship. If nothing else, for the good of the little girl. She will get confused as she gets older, and it will skew her idea of what a husband and father is.
2006-11-15 14:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well for one you yearn to have a relationship and you most likely lonely and this guy is right there for you and he gives you the attention your mmissing in your own life. but that doesn't give you the right to move in on this womans marriage. You are going about finding love in the wrong manner.
Be strong and stay away from him if thats impossible cause he keeps coming around you have to stand up to him and tell himm so and don't back down. Remember if the shoe was on the other foot and your husband was having an affair with his next door neighbour. and don't forget the little girl that is attached to you this will only be harder for her later and she could slip up and speak of you in a way the mother may not like and wonder why this little girl saw something or heard something she shouldn't your play8ing with fire and eventually will get caught.
Brake the ties now. And be ready for the man to want to keep you he's got the best of both worlds right now. of course he will fight to have you stay its costing him nothing and he gets to get his rocks off with you when ever he feels like it.
You'll find love just not this kind he will never be yours and you will end up hurting yourself and the family next door.
good luck
ANd be STRONG!!
2006-11-15 23:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should talk this happened to me. But you are better then that and get out before you hurt yourself even more.The little girl will get hurt if you keep doing this and I think you should tell the woman just how much of a loser he is!! Make sure you have proof cause he will deny it! are you the only one ? be careful not to catch something. I was seeing a doctor that was married moved me in right down the road, paid my bills and i started feeling the guit had to get out and I did. Now he found another woman to cheat on his wife with
2006-11-15 22:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by trickytrish79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to being alone for a minute - you don't always have to be in a relationship. Stay single for awhile, concentrate on you, excercise, take care of your skin, treat yourself, go shopping, hang out with other single women. More than anything learn to love yourself, only then will you exhibit that you deserve to be loved and cherished.
Take your time stay single for awhile, buy a rabbit girl and chill.
2006-11-15 22:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do now is you move and never see this guy again. Ever. Not even "just to talk." He's toxic, and has absolutely NO regards for you or your feelings. All he wants is what works for HIM, and the hell with whoever gets hurt in the meantime.
You're worth more than that.
And from now on, DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH MARRIED MEN.
2006-11-15 23:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, move away, stop all contact with him. then concentrate on getting yourself in shape, mentally, or you will keep going for guys that are the same. you need to do some searching, anywhere you can find it, the net, library, womens groups, get some support.
2006-11-15 23:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to do. Go get some counseling.
2006-11-15 23:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋