My mom has dated this guy for more than 2 years. I really like him and consider him a father figure. My mom brings this other guy to the house a lot and I see them kiss, hug, and then disappear into the bedroom. I asked my mom if they broke up and she said no. She can't decide who she wants. Should I tell these guys?
2006-11-15 14:00:17 · 20 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't say how old you are but your grammar and spelling are excellent and so I'm going to guess that you're smart teen who's quite mature.
Your mom is putting you in a difficult position because you genuinely like the guy with whom she's had a long-term relationship. She needs to be told, non-confrontationally but firmly that she's not being fair to either of the men she's seeing, and she's certainly not being fair to you. She has allowed you to become invested with the man you consider a father figure. If she doesn't love and care for him enough to be true to him 100% of the time, then she needs to let him go so that
a) he can get on with his life, and
b) you can begin the grieving process for what you're about to lose.
While I would not suggest that you make the first move in telling boyfriend #1, you can certainly tell her that if he asks you whether she's been unfaithful, you won't lie for her. She needs to tell him the truth before he learns it from someone else. He doesn't deserve that, and you don't deserve to be in that position.
Good luck...
2006-11-15 14:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 00:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call these guys up and invite them both over for dinner!! Just kidding- your mom is being a bad example on how to have a relationship, tell her you think it is wrong and your feelings- and her actions will catch up w her and time will tell what happens- D
2006-11-15 14:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice you have accepted the other man she has been seeing as a father figure, but ultimately its her life. If she chooses to lead a lifestyle of lying and cheating, then its her business.
Stay out of it.
2006-11-15 14:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to come right out and make her angry, but instead say, when you, her and her boyfriend are together: "I'm really glad that we're such a great family." Or something like that. Your mom may feel a littel guilty.
2006-11-15 14:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! It's not your life, it's hers. I would tell her you don't approve of her behavior and although she can do as she wishes, she doesn't need to do it in front of you. And tell her you are uncomfortable keeping this secret from boyfriend #1. Maybe that will spur her into doing the right thing and picking ONE man!
2006-11-15 14:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is up to your mother. The best thing you can do is confront her about it,and try to explain that even you at the age you are know what she is doing is wrong. That it's an adult decision she has to make. Besides,why set wrong examples for your chidlren?
2006-11-15 14:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt. Just try to stay out of it. Even though wht she's doing isn't right, she's still an adult. She'll have to deal with the mess when it all comes down
2006-11-15 14:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by Meia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have nothing to do with your mother's relationships. But you can "admonish" or advise your mother to tell BOTH of them. She is playing them and that isn't fair to them or to you since you see her boyfriend as a "father figure".
2006-11-15 14:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No but tell your mom that you are uncomfortable with that. At the same time if her boyfriend ever asks, I wouldn't lie to him
2006-11-15 14:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋