Im 16 years old and my mom says that i HAVE to give my baby up for adoption.?

Question

im 2 months pregnant and my mom doesnt approve of me being pregnant. she says that i made the biggest mistake of my life and that my only option is to give my baby up or have an abortion and im sorry but i wont EVER EVER EVER get an abortion. my mom says that i cant support my baby and i wont know what to do. but who knows exactly what to do during their first pregnancy??!! but i know i can support my baby and i will be a good mother. i wouldnt put my baby in any danger.

Answer 1

No one can force you to give up a child for adoption or have an abortion.

You should speak with your mother- is she refusing to help you or provide you a home or support? If so then immediately apply for WIC and contact your local welfare office on assistance getting housing. You can stay in school, the gvt can help you with everything from daycare to money to pay the bills and health insurance for you and the baby.

You also need to get in contact with the baby's father. You will need support (financial, emotional, etc)

Answer 2

Well, I'm still schooling and im in my third month of pregnancy too, my parents obviously flipped when they found out and i had to stay at fren's place, but they are alright now, I guess its only a matter of time they come to accept the baby, I mean when your mom sees your newborn, i think it will be extremely difficult for her to want to give it away too, after all, that is your mom's grandchild.

You have every right to keep the baby no matter what your status or income is. Ever heard of families with combine income of $900 and still manage to bring up 4 kids? There's a will, there's a way. Try to convince her. Also, even if she thinks its a mistake, u might suffer for the next 5 years, relatives might talk for the next 10 years, so wat? You and your baby have got a WHOLE life ahead! Its never easy for a life to arrive. Think about all the miracle that have happened in your body since the day of conception. Do u know that 1 out of 5 couples can't concieve? Tell her that she shouldn't take that one family member for granted.

Most importantly, tell her you love the baby as much as she loves you. How would she feel like someone had wanted to take u away from her?

Have faith.

Answer 3

Im 15 and I am in the same boat that you are in except I have not told my parents yet so I havn't been given that option but I do know that I would not give my baby up for anything. That is a piece of you and you would regret it for the rest of your life. Even when you had another child you would still feel that empty place in your heart. Stick to what your heart is telling you and even if you don't have the money to support it now you can get help trust me. I have looked into this like I hope that you have. I wish you the best of luck and who knows it may work exactly the way you want it too. Good Luck

Answer 4

Yes this is a very difficult time for you I found out I was 2 months pregnant 2 days after my 18th birthday. If you are %100 positive that you want to raise this child then you can check with your local Department of Human Services. They have housing, work, daycare, and food stamp programs. Yes, I know no one wants to be on welfare, but being 16 you can't do it on your own. They might even let you just go to adult high school. If your mom doesn't want the baby around then I would worry about that highly. You wouldn't want to put your baby in danger would you?? Also, be sure to join your local WIC program at your local Health Department so you get milk, cheese, and eggs and other nutritious things to eat while you are pregnant. Hope I was of some help. Good luck

Answer 5

I was 16 when I got pregnant with my first child. My mother was very upset, hardly talked to me. She did however tell me that I would be the one supporting it. I continued with school, got a job at Pizza Hut, and was able to save to buy everything she needed once she arrived. My mother came around eventually. She baby-sat while I went to school. Your mother will too. If she doesn't, it will be her loss not yours.

It is doable. I do recommend you stay in school. With a better education, you'll be able to support that beautiful baby when it gets older. There are a lot of resources out there for people in your situation.

Depending on the state you live in, there are medical cards that will pay for all medical expenses while pregnant, the delivery, and your baby can be placed on one once its born. There are WIC programs that provide the formula and cereal and juice (once baby is old enough). There are housing resources as well. Hospitals now have to check to make sure all infants have carseats when they are born, if they don't have one....they provide one. So, don't give up.

Maternity clothing? I never wore one piece of maternity clothing. I always bought and wore big shirts and jogging pants. The cribs I've used have always been hand-me-downs. My youngest is almost 1 now. If you lived close, I'd just give you everything that I no longer use...:)

If you don't mind me asking...what state do you live in? I can look up some info that might be of some use. I wish you the best of luck.

Congrats! You now have a beautiful baby growing inside you that will change the way you look at life forever. Its the best feeling in the world. :)

*Edited: The programs are there to help. Why not use them? Otherwise the government is just going to take that money and give themselves a big raise.*

Answer 6

Your moms saying this because she feels like you let her down..And if my daughter was your age i would feel the same way BUT because she is my daughter i would also deal with the fact and do everything i could i don't think that i could live with the fact that i couldn't have my grandchild..So first off i think you should go to your local family independance agency and see what kind of help they could offer you if your serious about keep the baby listen your not the only 16 year old in the world pregnant some are younger!! And i'm really glad you wont have an abortion if you only knew what they did..Good luck hope my advice helps..

Answer 7

first of all i'd like to let you know you're not alone. I'm 16 and 3 months pregnant...so i know how you feel. I haven't told my parents yet b/c my mother told me if i ever got pregnant i'd have to get an abortion. You're really brave to have the baby...I could never ever get an abortion either. If you think you can support the child mentally and finacially...go for it! only you can make that decision. I would give a lot to be able to raise my child, but i know mentally and finacially i'm not ready and neither is my boyfriend. Where is your parnter in all of this? Does he know? Talk to him. Guys don't always hit the road...they can surprise you sometimes. Plus you could use some TLC yourself. If you need to talk to someone in your situation just email me or IM me: zephyrgirl20

good luck

Answer 8

Your mother's heart is probably broken. Big dreams for you, I'm sure. I am proud of you for saying "no" to abortion. You are right to make up your own mind to be a good mother and try to support your own baby. It looks like your mother may not help you (but she may change her mind when the time comes). You are only 2 months along and have time to plan. Use this time to seek out a support system for yourself, just as if you were a 25 year old single parent without a family to depend on. You are so young but I have faith in you. Best wishes.

Answer 9

I agree with the adoption folks here. I know you're thinking about your feelings and you think that it would just be wonderful to have a tiny little person who loves you best in the world. But you also have to think about the fact that this person will need attention all of the time, nearly every second of the day. Who will step in when you are tired and the baby has been crying for hours? Your mom. Who will buy formula and diapers when you don't have the money because you can only work part time? Your mom. Who will pick up any slack when you can't handle things or can't afford things? Your mom.

Your mom was two years away from gaining her independence back. You were getting ready to graduate from high school, which marks the end of a parent's major responsibility. That's when parents can finally stop always putting themselves second and someone else first. Now you are on the verge of taking all of that away from her. She'll end up feeling responsible for your baby, even if just because you are living in the same house. You are your mom's baby and of course she'll step in to help you in any way she can, because as a mother it's her job and burden to put you first.

But is this fair for you to do? Why do you believe you have the right to sentence your mom to another eighteen years of selfless giving?

Answer 10

I was 17 when I had my daughter. It was hard, but worth it. Age doesnt determine if you'll be a good mom or not. It just depends on weather your ready or not to settle down and do it. I dont know what state in your in, but my school had a teen parenting class and I got daycare so I could go to school and work part time and only had to pay $1 a day. Their is help out there, you just have to know where to look, but if your school has a program for teen moms I'd go there first. Your now considered an adult and your mom can't make you do anything when it comes to your baby unless you let her. I'm sure after you have the baby she'll see and change her way of thinking. Start now by showing her how responsible you can be by saving money for the baby, getting some reading material. I'm sure your state has a wic program and things like that. Good luck and God bless. Children are gifts from God no matter what age he blesses you. Email me if you need any further advice. [e-mail]

Answer 11

i'm sorry, but your mother is horrible for saying that to you. if you intend to love and care for your baby there is SOSO much help you can get to help you financially and emotionally. wic, medicaid, and a million other programs can keep you AND your baby healthy, safe, fed, and clothed. a mother should never be forced to give up a child she could love, think about how that child will feel later on.

now don't get me wrong, many loving families can take in children and make them happy and secure. (both of my parents are adopted and happy with it), but some children aren't so lucky.

i was sixteen when i had my first son and i will tell you that no one can ever prepare you, no matter what age, for motherhood. it is instinct. and you will never know how much love you are capable of giving until you have a child. if your mother really really cared about you and what you wanted, she would realize that this is your chance to experience the happiness you give her. and even though she just wants to protect you, this is an example of a time that she has to step back and let things flow.

do what you feel. don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it.