In a nutshell here's the deal:
My husband's brother's birthday party was a few weeks ago, at a local karaoke bar. While we were at the party my brother in law's ex-girlfriend called me and asked if it would be okay if she stopped by the party to say hi.
I said "Well, I guess so. Let me make sure it's okay" I told my husband she wanted to come by, so he asked his brother's wife if it was okay with her. She said "Yeah, sure." So I told her to come on by.
She stopped by and everybody had a good time.
Now I'm "The Devil" for "inviting" his ex girlfriend to the party. His wife seems to have forgotten that she said it would be okay. We gave her an opportunity to say no and she said yes. She's even convinced herself that the ex-girlfriend gave her husband a lap dance!!! She's insane! The ex-girl sat next to my husband's mother the whole night, so nothing scandalous happened!
Now my sister in law is expecting me to kiss her feet with an apology, and I'm refusing to.
Who'se right here?
2006-11-15 13:22:51 · 15 answers · asked by Chellebelle78 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My brother in law and his ex-girlfriend broke up almost 5 years ago. My brother in law and his wife insist that they don't have a problem with the ex girlfriend and are okay with her being around.
The ex-girlfriend is NOT interested in my brother in law, even in the slightest! She's in a long standing relationship of her own and doesn't flirt with or give any impression of flirting with my brother in law.
2006-11-15 13:27:35 · update #1
My husband's ex girlfriend comes to every one of his birthday parties. As well as several girls that he had previous "encounters" with. I don't have to love it, but I'm mature enough to handle it. Besides, the party was held in a public bar, it wasn't reserved for a private party, so anybody that wanted to stop by could come in if they wanted to.
2006-11-15 13:44:21 · update #2
really you should have just told the x no it would not b a good idea and you should apologise for asking if she should come but not for her being there because you did ask his wife would it b ok if it was your husbans b day party would you want his x there
2006-11-15 13:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by jeannie k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stick to your guns; stay out of your sister-in-laws sight for a few days (or however long it takes based onm how stubborn she is). When that time is over, have your husband invote hs brother over for dinner and serve lots of wine. AS the night goes on and you guys drink more wine, maybe you could open up to each other and try to explain to her that you're sorry, but you remember asking her and she said it was OK.
2006-11-15 13:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this as a lesson to be learned, u should
have told the x to directly ask the wife of ur
brother-in-law that way you would have been
in the clear., and no-one could have blamed
you, as u put urself on the spot here.
2006-11-15 13:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel in ur heart that u did nothing wrong than don't worry about it u ask and she said yes so all these crazy feeling that she is having it on her because If I didn't want an ex around me or my husband I would b woman enough to tell u. so let it b an move on. good luck.
2006-11-15 13:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by pecan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably didn't want to be put on the spot like that, so she said yes. then you have to ask yourself "why did the x call you" instead of the brother-in-law or mother-in-law. because she put you on the spot. now that you two are at it, i think she is having a ball at both of your expenses. apologize to your sister-in-law and her husband onetime only. if she doesn't accept it, oh well. she'll either get over it or under it. but you at least apologized
2006-11-15 13:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bar equals a public place...ANYONE can show up. It was not your place nor anyone else's to say she couldn't come to the bar since none of you are the management or owners of the bar. Tell them next time to have the party at a private home.
2006-11-15 13:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. You asked her if it was alright and she said yes...so you need to tell your sister in law that she is the one wo said she could come. You are not the one to blame if your sister in law had a bad time at the party...SHE is!!!
2006-11-15 13:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Veronica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have all wrights not to apologies to her. If she said yes that’s no longer your problem. What you need to do is, get all the people that were there when she said yes, and remind her in front of them of what she said, and then leave her to be angry with her self.
2006-11-15 13:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by WORD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't apologize for something you didn't do. It sets the standard for the future and you will be the recipient of every ones mistakes. Stand your ground and eventually you will earn her respect.
2006-11-15 13:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yer not right cuz yer a woman and you should know how women think and that that was a bad idea cuz your gender never says what they mean.
2006-11-15 13:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋