I have a husband that won't even say "happy birthday" or "happy anniversary." I don't get any kind of acknowledgment for these days at all. Same for Valentine's day. Nothing. I don't complain about it to him, but sometimes I want to feel special, like I mean something to him. Most of the time I don't feel special at all.
Now I've stopped doing anything for his birthday as well.
Is this normal man behavior? Men's perspective very much appreciated.
Thank you!
2006-11-15 13:20:49 · 17 answers · asked by Vianka 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course its not normal,honey.
Do you unfailingly wish him on his birthday and those special days as well?? If you do and hes still as hard as a rock then you need to try mention to him as a reminder right before each of those special days arrives.You may do a significantly special
thing on each particular day so that he can notice how different and special that day is from others.
If you dont always wish him,then maybe you should start making an effort as well. Let him know that hes special and you wana celebrate with him...that way he'll make an effort and next thing you know,you'll feel special just by the thought of he is trying for you.
2006-11-15 15:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a tool. At this point, try to get over it, you're only upsetting yourself. He apparently does not seem too concerned about your feelings with birthdays or other holidays. That will most likely not change, and any sort of remembering or caring on his part in the future will be because he doesn't want you to have a meltdown, not because it's a "special day". Make it work for you. Some spouses are not predisposed to gift-giving or recognizing certain events, anniversaries, or days. That's just the way it is, and you may have to buy yourself a gift or look out for yourself on those days. Since he's not buying you flowers for Mother's Day, buy them yourself, stick them in a vase, and when he comes home from work, say "Look what you bought for me!" Christmastime, buy yourself a nice bracelet or something else you want and do the same thing, "Honey, look what you got me for Christmas!" You need to appreciate yourself. It's really too bad that he stood you up on your birthday, but have you asked him why he was such a insensitive moron to you and broke his plans with you without even calling? Was he truly aware how important it was to you, or did you just assume that he knew how important it was?
2016-03-28 21:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think that's normal AT ALL. I'm sorry to say, but it sounds like you don't mean much to your husband. Has he always been this way? Even when you two were dating? Honestly, that's not right. I mean, for my birthday my bf spent the whole night baking me a tiramisu cake (my fav.) and he took me out to dinner. There HAS to be some kind of acknowlegment. I think you need to present your feelings to him. Hear what he has to say and then go from there. Otherwise, things aren't going to improve on their own. Maybe he just doesn't think that these things are important to you. Open communication is the key.
2006-11-15 13:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Angelheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need acknowledgement to feel special, then you are just looking to get your feelings hurt. My husband doesn't acknowledge any of those days. Not even Christmas...we don't even get each other anything. Make each day special. Don't wait around on a special day to come around.
2006-11-15 13:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband never say hi when he is back from his week long business trip. Forget abt wishes for special occassion. Strange right?But we have been married for 7 yrs now. He wont even call me and my little one once. But honey! i can understand wht u r going through. I do feel the same way u feel. I want someone to treat me as a special atleast once in a whle. Wish ur husband understands ur feelings! Talk to him and see what he says! good luck!
2006-11-15 13:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by kiran123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT ARE YOU, CRAZY!!!
Every woman deserves to feel special. I can understand not recieving gifts in cases of money shortages, but my husband better darn well wish me a Happy Birthday, and he better darn well find a rose garden in the neighborhood to pick me a flower for Valentines Day.
Have you expressed your disappointment to your husband? If not, then you need to!
2006-11-15 13:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No this is not normal behavior!! It's truly inconsiderate. My ex forgot Valentine's Day one year and had his ex buy a gift and a card for me!!!! Then had the audacity to give it to me. It's all about care and concern for your feelings. Say something to him. If that doesn't work...forget to make those special dinners I am sure he likes.
2006-11-15 13:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by ba374 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is ABSOLUTELY NOT normal! You deserve recognition on these special days. By him ignoring them, he is basically saying that the day you were born and the day he married you (which should have been the happiest day of his life) is just not special. You need to work this out before it ruins you.
2006-11-15 14:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well has he always been like that? But, I would let him know that you want to do something special for your day. Tell him it hurts you that he doesn't acknowledge that special day.
2006-11-15 14:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal man behavior. Before u married him, did he use to ignore ur birthday? U allow him to ignore these special occassions, because u don't tell him that it bothers u.Ur marriage lacks communication and that is very unhealthy. U need to sit down and talk to ur husband or get some counseling.
If that does not work, then yall was not meant to b.
2006-11-15 13:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋