How do you handle negative people?

Question

I am back living with my mother who is constantly negative

She does not know how this effects me but my stomach hurts. It's just all day saying bad things about everybody ! People on TV, the way people look; saying the look "sneaky", just nonstop. I didn't realize how negative she is until i moved out.

Even now Mario Lopez on dancing with the stars she cant stop saying how much she can't stand him going "nah nah hahhah creep". it just makes my stomach hurt.

i handle this bye trying to counteract it with being constantly positive, saying "he's cute though' but she wont have it. its just constant and it's really affecting me. it's hard to stay positive.

i really can't talk to her about this. but i'm trying to show her how to be positive without saying anything; but it's an uphill challenge.

Please help; any tips with how to handle negative people?

Thanks

Answer 1

Well, if being more positive doesn't work, try to "outdo" her, until she realizes how silly she sounds.... Like, "oh yeah....sneaky-looking people...beady little eyes. I bet they sleep upside down in the closet..." or, something along those lines.

Or, maybe, if you really feel like you can't say it directly to her, how much it bothers you, then try some reverse psychology, as in "Mom, I've noticed that you've been really down lately...is there something you want to talk about?" or, "Is something bothering you...it's not like you to be so negative!?" {even though you know that's not true...keep going on in that vein: "....it's not LIKE you to do xyz..."} "Normally, you're so cheerful and think the best of everyone...what's gotten into you?" If you can get another family member or close friend to help you, all the better.

Answer 2

Well, it does all rely at the situation. Sometimes it is rather complicated to be confident within the face of such a lot negativity ~ and, not to allow your self get dragged into its messiness. An system might be through asking the individual, 'Say you're in Charge, you may have acquired the the accountability. How could you manage the difficulty....? Bearing in brain, you're taking the blame if it fails and would possibly good have got to form out the mess too'? Sash.

Answer 3

I know negative people can have a negative effect on other people. Try to ignore her. Don't let her get you down. Don't spent too much time around her. Get yourself out of the house and keep yourself busy doing positive things. Sometimes you just can't change people. She just might be one of them. Good luck.

Answer 4

People that always say things about someone its because they put other people down to keep there self up, are they do it because they are jealous are just have nothing else better to do, Me I just ignore them because its probably something on the inside that hurts them. I even talk about people a lot I do just to do it but I am trin to stop because it effects people.

Answer 5

you are an angel i just found out that I'm not alone with this problem my father in law is on the phone right now backstabbing his lions club friends
The only way that i have ever found to deal with him is to completely ignore his negativity or tell him something positive to counter his remark he really hates it but it at least shuts him up

Answer 6

Some people will be negative. Sounds like she is set in her ways. My mother is exactly like that too. I choose to ignore what she says and to be my positive self. Truely who you are and what you think is what matters.