Well my friend was raped yesturday by her boyfriend. She broke up with him after her mom found out about it and banned her from seeing him anymore. Well she loves him....and she kind of wants to get back together with him, but she's scared. He regrets it a lot...and now he is talking about suicide! I am really close friends with both of them...and I cant let her go back out with him and risk getting rapped again...and I can't just stand back and watch him kill himself over her....what can i do????
2006-11-15 12:59:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should stand by and care for the the girl who was raped. She didn't do anything wrong. She is the one who should be protected and nurtured.
Someone should have called the police. The boyfriend needs to be in jail. If he were in jail, and if he were suicidal, he could get the help he needs. As it is, let him do whatever he wants. I believe it is an act to get forgiveness and sympathy.
My position may seem extreme, but I know how that girl feels. The self-doubt, the guilt, and the shame are are very, very, very heavy burdens that she will carry for a long time.
2006-11-15 13:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
wow...thats quite a story. Let me start off by saying that this girl is not a smart cookie. If her boyfriend raped her, he should be out of her life. How can you love someone who has just proven to you how much they dont love you back? If she is scared, that's a sign in itself that this guy isnt good. If he is talking about suicide, let someone know. This can serious since many teens commit suicide over relationships.
2006-11-15 13:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if he regrets it--HE RAPED HER! She is a victim of abuse.
You need to tell that he doesn't matter how much he threatens her with suicide, she should NEVER GO BACK TO HIM. That's the oldest trick in the book. He is going to threaten suicide until he gets what he wants--the mind of a predator.
You NEED to convince her that he is terrible. He is the scum of the earth, and she deserves better. He's not sorry for what he did, and he will NEVER change.
Take it from someone who was raped by a best friend--he knows EXACTLY what he did when he did it.
2006-11-15 13:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has issues he needs to deal with if suicide is even an option for him. She should get with someone just to keep him from suicide. This is also used as a guilt trip it sounds like. If she cares at all about the boy... get him HELP. He should talk to a professional. And as far as her getting back with him... Who wants to date a suicidal rapist??
You can't feel guilty if he decides to end his life. It was only a matter of time until something else came along that he couldn't deal with like a man.
2006-11-15 13:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by TodboT 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both of your friends should get help, no one has any right to rape someone even if they have been going out or even had sex before or not and she shouldn't go back out with him because it could happen again and he didn't respect her enough to listen to her and here the word NO or whatever. As for him, its good that he was sorry and he admit what he did was wrong and he shouldn't kill himself over it, its good that you are good friends with both of them and you don't want her to go back out with him, because of what he did and you don't want him to kill himself over it. But, you should encourage them to get help by a school counselor or whatever. They need help before its to late and so you won't beat yourself up by this whole situation and before it gets worse or something bad happens. I hope I was able to help you and your friends and Good luck to you and your friends.
2006-11-15 13:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand by your friendwho was raped. If he wants to kill himself cause he feels guilty then oh well! Plus I'm sure he is just blowin smoke to get sympathy. He needs to seek mental help. Try getting him to go see someone but keep your friend away from him if you can.
2006-11-15 13:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse you are in the middle of both of them....seek help immediately ( professional) for both of hem. i would call the crisis line anoumously, or even speak with a school counseler....do not stay quiet...for this can make things worst. God bless
2006-11-15 13:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by old 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rape has nothing to do with love or sex. It has to do with someone imposing their will upon another person against their will. Was this really a rape? Did she say "NO" at any time? If she did, this is a crime. If she didn't say "NO" I have to wonder if this is a rape.
2006-11-15 13:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, he raped her. she shouldednt still love him, or elce it wasnt rape, because if it was then she would not be thinking about getting back together with him, or loveing him.
ok so you need to go up to him and go, dude you raped her, how can you expect her to still love oyu? ( i know she does but whatever) orr you can go up to him and go ok she still ikes oyu dude, and wather or not she gets back together with him is HER deicion, and she is putting herself at risk, and thats her probelm
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2006-11-15 13:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by livers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
consult your local authorities - your friends mom should already have done this. a crime has been committed. the boyfriend will go on to be a serial date rapist if allowed.
2006-11-15 13:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Norman 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋