would single mothers get more child support if society used?

Question

would single mothers get more child support if society used more carrots and perks rather than the kick em while there down approach for non custodial fathers ?

Took in to account that non custodial fathers can lose there jobs , get sick get disabled .

Some times noncustodial fathers need to get a pay cut to get to a job that will ultimatley pay them more than what they earn at there present job ?

Dedre pointed out that there are men who choose not to pay child support .The vast majority of the people who dont pay child support dont pay child support becuase they cannot afford it . I do pay child support .I pay a hefty amount of child support my phone is shut off becuase i pay child support . My electricty is almost shut off due to child support . My rent is not compleley paid due to child support . Yet i pay my child support . Dedre i hope you dont have a son . Becuase25 years from now if you do it will break your heart when he goes thru what noncustodial dads go thru these days .

Answer 1

I have four sons, and one grandson. This is what i have always told my sons. Be very careful whom you lay down with. If she becomes pregnant, she will decide if you will become a father or not. She will decide if she will make you pay child support through the courts or not. She will decide if she will make your life a living hell for the next 18 yrs after the baby arrives. So be very careful where you spit your seed. God bless*

Answer 2

As a single mum myself, the child support I get is nowhere near what it was costing their father to support them while he was still in the family home. It also doesn't take into account the extra time and caring duties I now have to perform on my own, with no rest or help within the home, nor the extra counselling/nurturing I must do to help my children adjust to life without relying on daddy coming home each night, remembering birthdays or important school activities etc.
I didn't ask for my marriage to disintegrate, but it did just the same. I'm sure my ex would agree with me on that, at least.
I agree all cases should be worked out on individual circumstances, but that is just impossible for anyone human to do, so I do the best I can with what I have. What carrot and perk are you meaning - a reduction in payments? I would hate to think that just because he kept paying me each and every week the pittance child support agency says he should be paying me that he was rewarded in this way, at the further expense of my kids?!

Answer 3

Do single moms who care for their children every single day get a second look from the government or any perk? No- why should fathers who are doing EXACTLY what they are suppose to be doing. Reassurance that there children's needs are being met should be enough. So no, I don't think that it should work that way- I think that fathers who miss child support payments should have it taken directly out of their check and if it can't be taken out of their check they should be put in jail until they come up with the $$. There should be firm consequences to avoiding paying child support, no carrot.

Answer 4

Some men don't pay because they can't.
Some men won't pay because they think the ex will spend it on themselves and not the kids.
Some men do the very best they can and still get 'kicked'.
Some men would just love to have their kids.
Some men are in denial about having kids and refuse to pay.
Some men don't pay just to p'off the ex they hate.
To keep 'billing' the father when he genuinely can't pay, for whatever GOOD reason, is not fair.
Each case should be taken on it's own merits.
Just do the best you can. The kids will probably grow up to appreciate your good efforts and respect you for it.
One thing a situation like this can't take away from you is that you are their dad. That's special.
Good luck.

Answer 5

I think there SHOULD be some sort of reward for fathers that do well wit their responsibilites. I am fortunate to be in a relationship with my child's mother that allows me to claim my daughter on my taxes, which is ahuge help, but thisis not the case for every father out there. I know of some guys that get their walets wrung out every month, an can barely support themselves, let alone see a bright future for their kids.

That also depends much on the quality of One's fatherhood skills as well as financial responsibility. I know of some guys that don't take the time to be Dad's to their kids, but still like to complain about the child support they pay. To these guys, I say "Nail them to the wall".

Answer 6

Would society have to pay more child support if single mothers had used contraception?

I agree that it is not fair for noncustodial fathers to pay child support in a flat rate, this should be based on their ability to pay but why shouldn't they pay? They were responsible enough to have a child they should be responsible enough to help raise that child. I didn't get your baby mother pregnant, so why should I support her?

Answer 7

I don't see the logic here. Why would any self respecting man need to be rewarded for supporting his own offspring. I would think that this is just a fundamental right that these children are entitled to. Men who refuse to support their children should be punished since these children are owed this, and yes jail would be appropriate since the children are not allowed freedom from poverty.