stop shyness?

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Stop shyness?

my shyness gets on the way.......i just had a job interview, and the interviewer said that he could tell im an introvert and very shy--shyer than most...ugh..why do i give such an aura.....how do i stop seeming and being shy??? my lack of social skills also brought frustration on developing relationships with people...

Answer 1

well, you have to put yourself out there. stepping out of your comfort zones a little a time & soon you will be an old pro. it does take work & isn't easy, but it really pays off in the end. it might take you a few years to really gain the sort of comfort level in social situations that you desire, but it really is worth it. you also have to help yourself with your confidence level & learn to love yourself.

you have to make a conscious efffort to change your pattern of behavior... you are used to just not doing things that make you feel uncomfortable. you have to challenge yourself always.

by the way, everyone feels the same things you do from time to time, but some just deal with it differently.

Answer 2

You sound like you are an introvert and there is nothing "wrong" with you. Extroverts are not the only normal people in the world. I'm an introvert also. I'm not a social butterfly, I listen more than talk and I need quiet time to myself. "Google" the term highly sensitive person and see if you fall in that category. If you do, read up on what it means to be an HSP. I hope it will help you understand yourself a little better if you are an HSP. Also, practice social skills with people you feel comfortable around. We introverts are the salt of the earth, good listeners, loyal friends, and deep thinkers! Many great qualities of being an introvert! Good luck with your job search!

Answer 3

Of course, you can always overcome shyness, just need some determination and you'll get through it. I think the first thing you need is confidence in yourself. Dont think of negative thoughts or put yourself down. Also, you should practice talking to people more and feel confortable. Even acting like your not shy can help you, but remember to be yourself. Be positive when you go on job interviews (or whenever your talking to people) Good luck in overcoming your shyness. =)

Answer 4

I have the same problem, but got a little better. Simply try practicing talking infront people infront a mirror, and then try to talking to people you dont know. Talk as much as you can and go out to more places by yourself. You can also try observing other people more and making eye contact.

People also say I'm too shy too, but I guess try to not care so much what others think. If you're uncomfortable about them saying that all the time, change yourself. But really, it's proving to yourself you can do it, not to other people. Good Luck!

Also visit my site if you want: http://www.geocities.com/red_reagel/Say_goodbye_to_being_shy.html

I have to warn you, I'm not a real professionist or anything like counselor. ^^;

Answer 5

I'm shy, too. It's really hard for me to do certain things because of my shyness, but hanging out with friends and talking alot gets me going. When I'm at school I just try to talk to people I know and my shyness goes away. But not permanently. I think that some people just grow out of shyness. I personally think there is no way for someone to get rid of shyness themselves, I think people can just get out of it if they try to be more social with friends and go to social gatherings more often they will learn to be more social and socialize and that is also a way to increase people skills. Increasing people skills erases shyness. I'm not as shy as I used to be, I still am a little shy, but not as much as I was when I was little. It's kinda like a long term goal you can set for yourself, because it takes time. If you try to be better with people and talk more you will gradually get better with people and not be as shy, as I was. Just think: there isn't really anything to be shy about. It's not like when you talk people are going to be judging you harshly. People notice your shyness when you show it. You don't want to show it. Just work on it. You'll gradually lose your shyness little be little.

Answer 6

I am very shy. but as a saying I heard says "fake it till you make it." Act like you think you would if not shy. act like you are someone that is not shy. put yourself in situations where you must push past your shyness. that is what I try to do.

Answer 7

Basically just be confident and talk to people like u known em b4. Use eye contact and try to b more social. Just go for it


GL

Answer 8

Just try to talk to the people like you have known them for a while.Just say to yourself, today I am going to be the realt me and talk to more people. Works for me. Don't worry what people think.

Answer 9

Well, you can look on the web on the topic of shyness, or u can talk to a shink.

Answer 10

Don't worry there's over billions of people in US who got that problem have have to live with it.