does a man who is 42 and still married but living with his girlfriend who is 21.........will their age difference effect them or will they be able to have a life
2006-11-15 12:39:11 · 7 answers · asked by kelly h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I thinkt he age difference shouldn't be a problem...the problem may arise when the consideration of what each of them want to do with the next 20 years of their life. If the 21 year old wants babies and things, that may be a little too young for the 42 year old. If the 42 year old wants to sit around and play Canasta :) then that may be a little too old.
It really just depends on maturity levels and goals.
2006-11-15 12:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Kelly,
In the last couple weeks you have asked this question in one form or another at least ten times. I comprehend that this is a difficult time for you and that you do not understand why a 42 year old would like to have a 21 year old climbing all over him and doing whatever he wants with some level of frequency and verve. You also do not understand why he would just bail out with no concept of his future lack of sexual prowess which is being exercised to the fullest right now. It baffles you also that he is now with some nubile little nymph instead of his wife of years who in his eyes may be obsessed about the smallest thing ad nauseum.
But please, for your own good, try to comprehend that he is not coming back any time soon unless she finally comes to her immature senses and realizes all his faults which have no doubt been pointed out in time.
You may be well served to attempt to quit dwelling on where you have been and concentrate on where you will go. Its painfully clear that you are still hoping for his return but don't know why he left. This is an untenable situation. Not being able to comprehend what he sees in her is a bit of an indicator why he left.
Pick yourself up and get ready to move on. Put this last relationship aside and see if you can find a new guy to take care of you.
Good Luck., He's not coming back for some time if at all.
2006-11-15 21:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got a mess on your hands here. you still have a wife! so what are you doing with a girlfriend? and living with her! that's just wrong. if you don't love your wife, and want a divorce, then get one, but you should have enough respect for your wife not to move in with a girl while you're still married to her. and what are you doing living with a girl who isn't your wife? see what I mean?
it's a mess. you're jumping out of the frying pan and right into the fire! take things one step at a time. you're moving way too fast, and it's all going to catch up with you. you've gotten off to a bad start with the girlfriend, and I don't know if it will work anyway, age difference or no age difference.
what I've written is what you need to tell this guy!
he's got a lot of baggage, and young girls aren't into that.
2006-11-15 20:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Im 42 and I think I would not have the energy to keep up with a 21 year old girl
Chances are also that a 21 girl wont be as mature as I am
So besides the sex that would be great for a while, I dont think I would have anything in common with a 21 year old girl
2006-11-15 20:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the 2 people involved. It's not something that can be predicted one way or the other.
2006-11-15 20:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but the fact he is married might.
2006-11-15 20:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by BRANDI B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW GROSS GET A LIFE AND A SINGLE ONE JUST DUMP BOTH OF THEM IF UR GONA CHEAT ON THEM THEY ARE TO GOOD 4 U !!! IN UR FACE LOSER !!!
2006-11-15 20:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by ROCKSTAR IN LOVE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋