There is a lot of transition in my family How do I adjust?

Question

I am married and right now I don't feel settled in my life.

Both my husband and I work very hard and we are living with his family until we relocate.

I feel like a fish out of water because I don't have my own place, I LOVE to entertain and cook and practice hospitality.

My husband does try his best but I have to work in order for us to eat and it takes two income not out of lavishness and extravagance but out of pure neccessity.

January we relocate, what is the best way to make the best of feeling uprooted? I don't feel safe and secure and I have been irritable lately.

I know the marraige vows say for better for worse for richer and poorer in sickness and in health,but sometimes
it is really hard.

Answer 1

hang in there its only till January right around the corner and I know your thankful for having a roof over your head and that your inlaws have opened there house to you. I'm sure there feeling confined and missing there privacy too. Try to continue working this will help be away from the house as much as possible and when you are home try to find a quiet place where you can read a book or even soak in a tub for a bit its only a couple more months in the mean time you enjoy planning and having parties. why not get a pad and pen out and start planning this wonderful party your going to have once you get your new home. take this time to prepare and jot down ideas of what you want with this new house warming party. this should carry you through till January. good luck

Answer 2

I realise you feel trapped in your situation just now- but if you are definitely moving in January then that is only 2 months away; so for now focus on that & prepare yourself mentally for the move.
it ise always difficult sharing with other people & if you llike to entertain be creative about it-
picnic in a park .
moving will present new challenges; if you are working then that will make the shift a little easier as you will meeting new people/making new friends.
if you will not be working immediately thyen check with your local community centre re interest groups that you could become involved with.
each day that passes brings you closer to when you will move- in the meantime you have things like thanksgiving & Christmas that you can concentrate on. speak to your husbands family & you may be able to formulate a plan for you to join together to do some entertaining in the interim.
Also as a young couple sharing accommodation with others - it can be difficult to feel that you have some privacy. possibly you & your partner need to make "dates" & to go out- even just to a cafe for a coffee

Answer 3

In situations like this you keep reminding yourself that nothing stays the same.

You will one day have the things you want but right now you have to be a bit uncomfortable.

Also remember why you married this man and the vows you exchanged should mean something.