so my brother is 17 almost 18 and i dont think he has ever been on a date in his life. he is a little over weight but hes a really nice guy and hes really shy. i want to help to get him out of his shell. i know that if maybe he wasn't so shy and if he lost a little weight he would be a ladies man. haha. but i honestly don't know what to do. got any tips?
2006-11-15 12:25:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with everyone else-- try to get him to socialize with your friends. Let your friends know that you're trying to help him get over his shyness and ask them to help him out by being overly friendly, etc to help build his confidence. They don't have to date him, they can just help him get used to talking to people he doesn't know. As far as the weight goes, maybe you could suggest that the two of you take tennis lessons or something of that nature. The pretense would be spending quality sibling time together, but actually it would get him in a regular exercise routine. I think it's great that you're trying to help out your brother. Good luck!
2006-11-15 12:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Just leave him be....if he is feeling bad because he hasn't been on a date yet then having his sister/brother (which ever you are) find one for him would make him feel worse.
Maybe he isn't ready or hasn't found the right girl/guy. Despite what you may think there are a few (very few but a few) guys out there that are not obsessed with nailing a chick.
The right girl/guy will come along for him and all will be wonderful.
He doesn't need your help.. I think its kinda sad that you think he needs to be thin to get a date ....what kind of date do you want for him a shallow, superficial, so and so?
2006-11-15 20:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to learn Guitar. If it takes 2 years it will change his life for ever. At that age I learned it and after I did I never once thought that much about dates.. I had found the love of my life in my Music.
Key boarding is also fun as well. I had a hard time with drums but it is said that they are easy to learn. Good Luck
2006-11-15 20:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by jl_jack09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His weight should not even be an issue. His self esteem is the problem area. Most of the time, shyness is due to low self esteem. Try to set him up on a blind date. Make sure that it is someone that he knows so he is comfortable with them. Even if it is a friend only deal. He might feel better about himself. If he can show one woman a good time, why couldn't he show another one a good time. Practice makes perfect!
2006-11-15 20:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by stumped dummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need 2 help your brother with his wieght
(ignor bad spellin)
then give him some tips
like, dont fall 4 the girl let her feel comfortable around
him then shell ask him out
2006-11-15 20:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by .:*MusicIsMyLife*:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey look, first of all, if ur brother is overweight, or maybe fat, that is not a problem to get a girl, look at guys like Fat Joe, the rapper, he gets a bunch of girls and he's fat, and not just for the money but for his personality, feel me? help ur brother to develop his own personality, ur a girl, show him how to dress, show him what a girl likes and what a girl doesn't like, show him how to talk to the girls, feel me? i'm sure all he needs is a few tips here and there and he'll be a pimp, trust me, being overweight is not a problem, just do what i told u, give it a try, u'll c it'll work.
2006-11-15 20:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by rocko1801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your girl friends talk to him, etc, and help feel more comfortable around the opposite sex, that will help him learn how to talk to girls, and listn at the same time, most guys just don't take the time to listen to the girl, they are in just too much of a hurry to get in to thier pants instead orf respecting them for who they are, and for thier thoughts and feelings
2006-11-15 20:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to join up at a gym with you because you really want to get in shape but you hate to go alone....you know like its for you - not him, then he will get fit and meet new people and never realize you did it...so no shame...
2006-11-15 20:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try exercising with him..take him to the mall or even to a social party with you..get him use to being around ppl..that should get him out of his shell
2006-11-15 20:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by becca j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋