Is it wrong for a bisexual person to be with a guy and girl at the same time?

Question

i know what I think but i want to hear other opinions

Answer 1

Yeah why not being bisexual does mean that they enjoy sex with both sexes!!

Answer 2

First off, let's get to the source of things:

Is it wrong for a BISEXUAL person to be with a GUY and GIRL at the same time? For me, the fact that the person is bisexual doesn't matter, and the gender of his/her partner(s) doesn't matter either. Polyamory isn't linked to any sexuality; there are gay men who have several lovers, straight men who have several lovers, lesbians who have several lovers, straight women who have several lovers . . . and so on. People of all sexual orientations have threesomes, some which have both homosexual and heterosexual action in them (thus belying the bisexuality of at least one member), and some are all homosexual (all the same gender), and yet others are mixed-gender but, by carefully maintaining boundaries, have only heterosexual sex take place. I refuse to let anyone use bisexuality as an excuse for their decision to be polyamorous- they are separate issues.

That said, I don't think it's wrong. I think it's difficult, tricky, sometimes unfair to one's partners (who go along with it so they won't lose their boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife), and can cause a lot of problems. There are successful polyamorous groups, however, so if someone can do it and everyone invovled be happy, I'm happy for them! But most people have enough difficulty as it is maintaining one relationship . . . two is a recipe for disaster. Also- before I forget- if someone is going to be with both a girl and a guy at the same time (or any other combination of genders), both have to know what's going on for it to be polyamory. Otherwise it's nothing more than cheating, and that is pure evil in my mind.

Those are my thoughts on the subject. Now I want to know yours!

Answer 3

No more then for anyone else. Bisexuality does not excuse infidelity. I am bi and a strict monogamous, I really do not like the idea of someone claiming to be in love with more than one person at once. That just doesn't seem like true love to me. To me love is about dedicating yourself to one person and remaining faithful to them. So while other's may have another opinion mine is that it's wrong to be with two people at the same time regardless of sexuality. At least as far as love goes, if it's just sexual thing then yeah it's okay just so long as everyone is willing and no one expects anything serious.

Answer 4

So first let's get the sniggering out of the way with the old Woody Allen line: "Sex between a man and a woman can be a beautiful thing, if you're between the right man and the right woman." In other words... if you're talking about a threesome, that's entirely up to you and the other pair involved. It's a popular fantasy.

If your definition of "at the same time" means you go out with him on Monday and her on Tuesday and him again on Wednesday, over a period of several weeks to several months, then once again whether it's right or wrong depends on what kind of relationship you have with the people you're going out with. If either of them wants, expects, or -- worst of all -- BELIEVES the relationship to be monogamous, then it doesn't matter that the other person in the triad is the opposite sex. If you're looking for exclusivity, it isn't going to be okay if your partner is with someone else, no matter what sex the other person is.

If on the other hand you're open about seeing other people, and the people you go out with are aware of and okay with this, then I don't see how it could be considered wrong to date members of both sexes, any more than to date members of either sex exclusively. Once again, what it really comes down to is what you expect, what you communicate, and how you treat each other.

Answer 5

It's not for us to say what is right or wrong in someone else's relationship. If it is an 'open' relationship, where all parties agree to there being a third person involved, then fine. If it's someone cheating on their partner, then it's not fine.
Bisexuality makes no difference - it would be exactly the same if one member of a straight couple also had another partner.

Answer 6

YES! The fact that your bisexual shouldn't matter at all.
Being commited to someone applies even if both of you are the same gender...

Beliefs like this make people think that being bisexual is a joke.

Answer 7

Not if both people know whats going on and are ok with it. I had a friend in California who was bi and was in a committed relationship with two people, one man, one woman. That triple has been together for going on 20 years. To insist that a committed relationship can only be two people is no more reasonable than claiming that a relationship must be heterosexual. We are all individuals, we have the right to make our individual choices.

Answer 8

I think it's not a point of if they are bisexual but who they are and the understanding of their relationship. If they are someone in a manogomous relationship then definately no. If they are into open relationships and both partners are cool with it then why not.

Answer 9

I think it's fine as long as all parties know about the situation and are ok with it. If it's hidden, and/or one person is expecting monogamy, then it's not ok.

Answer 10

Maybe not wrong, but it is rude. It's essentially saying, "Yeah, you're okay, but in order for me to feel truly happy I have to be with someone else as well."