15 years Ive been with my partner. He's moody 90% of the time and very unsociable. example if a member of my family come round or a friend. He don't make any effort to make them feel welcome. If he don't have any thing to say he won't mean nothing. I get really embarrassed and friend's leave thinking he's just plain rude. So no one come's round when he's here. He's ok with me i guess, but i keep thinking when he's not home how happer me and the kid's are. then when he get's in from work it's like a big grey cloud walking in with him. Ive asked him to leave but he never does. What if i kick him out and want him back. and he relise it's being with me that make's him missable. and deside not to come back. The kid's say he 's always grumpy. But he's there dad, they love him, what should i do.?
2006-11-15 11:52:55 · 10 answers · asked by beverley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh my god my ex hubby was like this !! he would do the same things all the time. apart from other things i asked him to leave myself and my son were happier also when he was at work . it set in when my son said to me one day, mom its so much nicer when my dads not at home that was enough for me to end it. ive been seperated for nearly 4 years and were so much better off my son is doing better at school and were both happy. we dont have to come home to that moody #rse sitting there looking like he as 2 days to live ! but i was turning into the same as him and people kept telling me i was turning into being like him too. life is for living and thats what you and your children should be doing, not having to put up with this idiot. if he wants to me moody let them do it by him self. my mates and family visit me all the time now and its great, i dont have to explain whats wrong with him all the time. good luck !!!
2006-11-15 20:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. You tell me you have been with your partner for fifteen years !
and he is grumpy 90% of the time !
So what do YOU feel about your partner ?
Are YOU Happy ?
Are Your Children Happy?
You Need to look at all the angles here!
Before any Drastic Move !
Sometimes the grass is NOT greener on the other side of the Bridge !
Talk to ALL of your Family about YOUR feelings Before you make any move! PLEASE!
Kindest Regards to You.
Nick,
2006-11-15 20:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by nick h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a bloke in a relationship I thought i may be able to give insight?? This is my experience not neccessarily whats happing in your situation.
I am too miserable and moody with my partner. I think its because she annoys the pants off me and im not in love with her. Itis true that i am only sticking around because i love them and I know she can't cope and look after the kids on her own. Harsh but true.
The only thing to do is confront your partner and confess your concerns. Communication is the key to any relationship and you have to find out why he is the way he his. Be prepared for some home truths though!
Good luck
2006-11-15 20:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by carlos 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its because deep inside your scared to be alone, Don't be.
Why be unhappy with a man who is making you feel that way, when he's out gather his stuff together, throw them out on the lawn and change the locks, phone all your friends and tell them you finished him the support you'll get from them will overwhelme you. As long as you let him have access to his kids your doing the right thing.
Good luck xxx
2006-11-15 19:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably hes pissed off with you but too emotionally dependant on you to walk away.
Walking away yourself might help you both, might not you never know what mistakes you'll make next time. Maybe you can fix this relationship, maybe theres a white knight waiting out there.
You just gotta ask yourself.."do you feel lucky punk? well DO ya!"
2006-11-15 20:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Victorf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You can''t like people in bits and pieces you have to like them as a whole.Trust me if you hear other people's problems you will thank God for your's.You been toghther for awhile and you loved him once or love now just try to be happy.Don't think about how your friends feel ,it's about you and your kids an dthat is all that matters.
2006-11-16 04:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's toooooo short to be unhappy.
2006-11-15 19:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him.Then dont think of anything.
2006-11-16 03:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit him down ans talk to him about this
2006-11-15 20:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by cindy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll take your arm off!!!
2006-11-15 19:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋