we lived together for 14 years. when he left he said he is not obligated to me for anything because we are not married. He has been seen with another woman.He treated me badly so its better for me that he is gone,but I still want a little revenge!
2006-11-15 11:44:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is a good question. Now, buckle your seat belt so that I can turn a corner and help you do what will likely be the best advise that you don't want to hear.
The answer, don't get revenge. Think about it for a moment. If your relationship ended with a tail spin and anger, he expects you to get revenge. In fact, the fact that you are seeking revenge advise suggests that either you are really hurt over this breakup or you are vendictive and have been even in the relationship.In any case he is likely thinking that you are going to seek revenge which puts him in a position of power as he thinks that you are just so crazy over him that you can't get over him so you are lashing out at him because he is worth your fighting back. Here is what you do, think about your future and the fact that if he didn't want you now, revenge is likely going to make him want you less and in any case don't give anyone that kind of power over you. You honestly belief somehow that revenge is what will make you feel better and make him suffer. In reality it may not even be that way. You may not feel any bettter and he may not even be bothered by your effors for revenge. The mistake many people make in life is that they change their beliefs instead of changing their behavior. Change your behavior, don't allow any person to take you our of character. Let him go, that will mess him up and he will wonder why you are not bothered. Then go on with your life and he will be even more messed up.
2006-11-15 11:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Willard S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The very best way is to go on without him and show him that you never needed him either. Get all hot and sexy so he sees that he was a dope to ever leave you for another women. After all, men always want what they can't have. Then, when he comes running back with his tail between his legs, you can tell him to get lost.
2006-11-15 19:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by tinakay_83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont waste your time on someone that does not show any love for you. its sad my dear but thats the way this world is some people do stupid things to one another and play yo yo and at the end you have still not gain anything more then what they left be happy be yourself there are many fishes in the sea so good luck peace p.s make yourself happy
2006-11-15 19:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by nasty_boy823 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened to you.
But if you two live together, he's gonna think "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?" It's very true......
Next time, wait till you actually get married to live with somebody. And then maybe you'll hurt less.
You don't need revenge.
He will get what he deserves. What goes around, comes around.
2006-11-15 19:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is to forget him completely and live well. To not let it affect you and have a nice life is the best revenge ever.
2006-11-15 19:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats awful. however, the best revenge is for you to go on with your life, and never look back.
2006-11-15 19:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by prettydebutante 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where to begin?
Revenge is easier than Tinker-Toys!
The key to revenge is to embarrass him without making yourself look bad.
You just have to get creative; the possibilities are endless!
"Oh, you didn't know he likes his butt plugged? That's why I dumped him."
"Oh, you didn't know he has chronic flatulence? That's why I dumped him."
"Oh, you didn't know he used to have a cootchie? That's why I dumped it."
2006-11-15 19:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's immature I know it sux and it probably hurt a lot but the best thing to do is just move on.
2006-11-15 19:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im really sorry to hear that thats really hard i dont no what to do
2006-11-15 19:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by red devil mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋