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I hate the word...but I am divorced. It didn't end bad and we are friends. He was controlling and it changed my personality and i knew i had to get out of the relationship. Why can't I feel good about saying I did the right thing It kills me to tell people i meet ...especially men ?? Help

2006-11-15 10:26:24 · 7 answers · asked by Tropical 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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well it is hard to admit that we are divorced, it's like saying I failed in a relationship. But until you get over that feeling that it just wasn't meant to be, you won't feel good about yourself. You have to realize that it wasn't your fault and eveerything happens in life for a reason if we don't always know the reason

2006-11-15 10:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0 0

When I first married, I promised myself it was for life. Low and behold, after the ring was on that left hand, the controlling abusive monster overtook the nice and caring person I thought I was in love with. After my divorce, I felt like damaged goods. Thought I would never find someone who would treat me the way I know I should be treated. Let me tell ya, the day I met my bf, my whole attitude changed on divorce. Life is all about taking steps that lead and prepare for what it has to offer. I was ok to tell people I was divorced..the first time I did, I received a bunch of "I'm sorrys"-but I looked 'em straight in the face and said if Ihad not divorced, the cource of events in my life after would not have been so much better. I was able to have friends, be with my family again, and finally meet the one true person who I know I want to spend my life with. Best laid plans never work out, so look at your divorce as your stepping stone or learning experience. You are on your way to finding the happiness you deserve.

2006-11-15 21:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by ba374 2 · 0 0

because we couldn't do anything to fix it, or make it right. atleast u had the sense to get out of it before it got worse. u hate to tell men because u think they will get a preconcieved idea about u, or they won't want to get into a relationship with u, if u tell the truth. no one likes to admit we failed, u may have had a preconcieved idea on how your life would go, and when it didn't go that way u became disolutioned.

2006-11-15 18:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0 0

Sometimes Divorce is the right and only logical answer..
No shame in Divorce...

2006-11-15 18:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Tell them the truth. That you divorce your husband because he was controlling you and you felt that you are not loved. And feel good and be proud that you are the one who recognized failure.

2006-11-15 18:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

better 2 get out of a bad marriage than 2 stay and suffer.

2006-11-15 18:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0 0

marriage should be for better and for worse, just becuase you don't like something, you'll bail out.... you should have known that he was controlling before you marry the guy...

2006-11-15 18:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by Morena 3 · 0 2

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