my boyfriend and i experimented with anal sex recently and it hurt very badly so before he was all the way in i asked him to stop (which of course he did) and later that night when i had a bowel movement there was a little bit of blood when i wiped. is that normal? i don't know anyone who has done this that i could ask. only serious answers please.
2006-11-15 09:50:34 · 15 answers · asked by curious girl 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
we used KY jelly
2006-11-15 10:07:53 · update #1
it's normal, next time when you do it, use a lot of lube, lay on your belly, put a pillow under your belly to elevate your butt and keep your legs closed kinda tight, make him work to get it in, i find that once it gets in, it is easier, then i open up more for him, i also use a bullet on my clit to keep my mind off the initial pain, if you do it this way then eventually you will learn to like it....i did LOL
2006-11-15 09:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
i think it's pretty normal, but my question to you is did you use any special lubes because the ones for dryness usually do not work that good for that kind of project take it from someone who knows. You might want to try astro glide or booty ease(it has benzocane that will make it a bit numb) and the next time you try it make sure you are relaxed.
2006-11-15 18:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by T.T. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal for a little bit of blood. Next time try to relax and make sure you use lubrication. Also try to have him stimulate your clitoris or you can with a vibrator. It helps relax the muscles back there and it feels great! Have fun!
2006-11-15 17:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It can happen, probably just a little tear. If you choose to do it again go slower and allow the muscle to relax, foreplay and "rubbing" that area can help relax it. Also remember lube helps a lot.
2006-11-15 18:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by amish_renegade 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is normal, especially if it was your first time with that. It probably tore a little bit. Make sure, if you are going to try it again, to use a lot of lubrication.
2006-11-15 17:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have your boyfriend use his thumb first to get you use to the feeling, and then work slowly from there. Also make sure to use a water based lubricant and no vaginal penetration after anal until he has thoroughly cleaned his penis.
2006-11-15 17:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by cameron lally cscs 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Anything that makes you bleed is not normal. If you continue to do this, you are setting yourself up for a host of infections and definitley more tears to your anus.
If you continue this for long enough, the anus WILL loose control of the sphincter eventually, and you will have problems holding your feces in.
It's an exit hole, not an entrance hole.
2006-11-15 18:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
well see usually when you first have anal sex it hurts but after a while the pain goes away and make sure he uses a condom.
2006-11-15 18:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by chazelly_7 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that would seem like a normal "side affect"...maybe he irritated some tissue "in there"..i wouldn't get all freaked out about it..try havin him start out with somethin smaller,like on his hand..and just work the outside and a small portion of the inside..some women LOVE this..it's a heller outcome...but ,if ya don't like it..then that's your choice..but experiment girl...don't be afaid...
2006-11-15 17:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by curious1 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since it was your first time maybe he tore you alittle bit, But it is nothing to worry about unless you start to bleed heavily and are in alot of pain.
2006-11-15 18:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by heartyangel98 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋