2006-11-15 09:48:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah, that's pretty selfish. it's always nice to do things for one another, but you should never expect your spouse to do something that's not comfortable for them.
2006-11-15 09:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
apart from really long hair being a lot of work to maintain - it can also be a contributing factor to headaches because of the weight.
if a someone with long hair consistently keeps it pulled back in a tight ponytail/etc that can also create extra stress on the scalp.
so these are issues that also need to be taken into consideration.
as another answer stated maybe you could reach a compromise wherein you wife has her hair cut to just below her shoulder blades.
THINK about this-- would you maintain a neat/trimmed beard for years if it annoyed you - but she liked it on you
talk to your wife about the issue - BUT if she decides to cut her hair then support her in that choice
you can always buy her a wig to wear on occassions
2006-11-15 10:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having long hair is a LOT of work. And yes, it's a little inconsiderate for you to want her to keep her hair long, especially if you're demanding it. Maybe what you could do, is let her decide for herself if she wants to mainain it long, or shorter, and buy her a long hair wig. Think of the money you'll save on shampoo and conditioner and detangler and hair things..
2006-11-15 10:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Misty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish...it's one of the things you love about her...now that's sweet, not selfish! But don't fight with her about it....it's just hair, it will grow back.
If she's intent on getting it cut.......and obviously her hair is beautiful (otherwise you wouldn't care) she should look into the locks of love thing. They make wigs out of human hair for cancer patients......It's such a good thing to do, and it's a way to help someone if you cant donate blood, or have needle or pain issues, like I do........I am growing my hair out JUST to donate it.
You'd still love her if she lost ALL her hair, right......
2006-11-15 09:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's selfish!
I have very long hair also, and it is very hard to mantain, but my boyfriend loves it and I wouldn't dream of cutting it.
Maybe you should try explaining to her why you don't want her to cut it. If she knows how much you love it, then maybe she will appreciate it more and want to keep it.
2006-11-15 09:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sheriff Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Unless you are willing to do the work in order to take care of it yourself. But that won't work here, it's not you body. Do you even know how many headaches she suffers? What about the neck and shoulder pains?
What may be beautiful to you, can also be a burden she is carrying for you. Notice I said "to you" and "for you". Have done as much for her?
2006-11-15 10:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband also loves long hair. After I had him help me wash and dry it, then put it up for work, he understood how much work long hair is. Its also very fun, sexy and not to mention warm. Can you handle mid-length hair? Maybe something easier to handle like mid-back ? Just remember:It may look nice and be fun to play with but unless you have to take care of it daily....its not for you to say.
2006-11-15 09:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell Yea it is.. What difference it make to you how long her hair is.. ? Don't you love her .. reguardless of her hair? .. If is alot of work to keep up that much hair.. and unless you are washing it for her a couple nights a week.. You need to worry about your own hair and let her do whatever makes her happy.
2006-11-15 09:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. If she asked you to shave a mustache or cut your hair or some other thing that you loved, would you do as she asked? If not, don't expect what you wouldn't give. If you would do as she asked, I think you should let her know you want her to keep it long, its sexy, she looks beautiful, etc. I think most women would like to please a mate they love, even if its a lot of trouble! Good luck!
2006-11-15 09:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can participate in the maintenance of her hair.
Would she find you brushing her hair a turn-on?
It probably is a lot of work. The real question is what can you do to encourage her to be enthusiastic about keeping long hair?
Offer to discuss solutions, your participation, etc.
2006-11-15 09:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a lot of work to keep long hair but i mean if u do things for her like shave or do stuff that make her happy i think she could do this for u to make u happy lol that kinda sounded corny but yea. i think its not selfish
2006-11-15 09:50:41 · answer #11 · answered by Amber M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋