I have recently been going to a prayer group which has been myself and two other women who have already known each other for years. They have decided to make this a weekly event which I can't always attend due to my erratic work schedule. One of the women mentioned I must not be real serious about this group, but I have attended each time I can. They seem to not like when I don't show up, but I don't see the big deal.
One of the women told me the other day they had plans for a Thanksgiving dinner inviting some other people. Not one mention for me to be invited. Since I have found this out, I don't care to ever show up for the other meeting, why bother? I think it is rude, and unbelivable the one woman would discuss with me their plans for a Thanksgiving dinner. I told her this morning, Thank God I was invited to someone's house, I think she sort of got it then, and told me I could come to theirs. I don't know how to tell this though tactfully. Any suggestions?
2006-11-15 09:47:52 · 9 answers · asked by janelle p 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
It sorta sounds like you *don't* actually have any plans for Thanksgiving. Did you make up your invitation just to bring up the subject?
If you like these women enough (not sure you do) to spend it with them, accept by saying something like "Hey, I would like to take you up on your offer. What can I bring?" You don't have to explain about your "other" invitation.
If you don't like these women enough to hang with them - maybe you should consider volunteering at a shelter or food kitchen. The people you'll eat with there will undoubtedly be very happy to have you around.
2006-11-15 10:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their attitude toward you doesn't seem all that Christian to me. The fact they said they didn't think you were serious about attending the "group" when they knew you work erratic hours isn't very understanding. What were you 'spose to do say, "Sorry, Boss, can't work then, gotta go to Bible study..."? This wouldn't fly in most offices I have worked in. Anyway, the less you say the better. I would just write the "group" off and move on to a more understanding and compassionate group of "friends."
2006-11-15 10:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a prayer group and there is this petty stuff going on.....before anyone starts praying for anything, this needs to be cleared up. Remember God says, if you have an offering to bring to the alter, but have something against your brother, go "straighten that out" before you bring your gift.
If this group's focus is really on prayer, there shouldn't be any petty stuff going on. Do what you have to do to get it straightened out. If you can't, perhaps this isn't a good place to be.
2006-11-15 17:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For Thanksgiving we've long gone to my mothers and dads or his mothers and dads so it is not all jointly. there is mostly a pair of dozen people. we've by no ability used paper plates. My mom would not also have a dishwasher yet we use actual plates. i do no longer see something incorrect with it (assuming this is an informal affair) yet i won't be able to think of loading a flimsy paper plate with heavy turkey and dressing and fixings. how briskly might gravy leak with the aid of? in the event that they're rather good paper plates (like chinet) then it would paintings. i think of the designs make it nicer than undeniable white too ;-)
2016-10-22 03:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just assumed you would not be able to make it. If you think that is bad my extended family (aunts and uncles) told us (me, my mom and my brother and sister) that we were not welcome to come to our grandma's house for thanksgiving because there is not enough room and they have nothing in common with us. My grandma tried to smooth it over but our feelings are hurt.What great family members we have huh? Sorry to go off but I feel your frustration. I think you should decide if these are women you want to spend the holiday with or not, if so go,have fun, forgive and forget, that is what I have to do. Good luck.
2006-11-15 09:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go to their dinner and i would find a new prayer group. Those women are very petty.
2006-11-15 10:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tacky. You would think people in prayer groups would have better ethics. Just goes to show you huh?
2006-11-16 08:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we who are tolerant must be tolerant of those who are not. sad this situation is what it is. perhaps you need to regroup your thoughts after a day or two. do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do.
2006-11-15 10:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best I can say is
Thank you so much but if i dont go to ****** they would be quite disappointed...maybe next time
and smile
2006-11-15 09:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by t_demorg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋