My friend Jessica is pregnant and she's only 14 and the guy she was with is 17. The thing is she only told me about it not even her family knows and yesterday she cried in about every class i felt so bad for her. But its driving me crazy not to tell at least one person but im scared if i do it would ruin our friendship what should i do?
2006-11-15 09:45:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well either way she's about to ruin her own life, so why not be a friend and do something about it.....
2006-11-15 09:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Vetala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - I don't envy you at the moment but you are taking the first step in helping your friend by asking for help yourself. I think that you should speak to a trusted adult, perhaps a school counsellor or a year advisor, as they would be in a position to know both you and Jessica, as well as Jessica's parents. Jessica may need support to tell her parents, and if you feel up to it, perhaps you could offer to be there when she tells them, maybe there could be a meeting in the counsellor's office with Jessica and her parents and the counsellor. Also, as has been said before, she is going to need medical assistance for her own health and her baby's. I can tell you from a 27 year old friend's experience that it doesn't matter what age you are, it is difficult to tell your parents, and they may not initially be receptive, but they should come around to support Jessica in whichever decision she makes in regard to her pregnancy. The other consideration is the 17 year old boyfriend - how likely is he to stick around? His parents may also be entitled to have a say in what happens from here. You are obviously a good friend who is deeply concerned about Jessica and you have been placed in a very difficult position. Start with your trusted adult and good luck!
2006-11-16 01:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by funmum2112 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't see it as ruining your friendship but helping your friend if you told someone. Talk to a teacher you like or a guidance counselor you trust so that an adult can give her the help she needs. It's really hard to be pregnant and a teen...and someone who's 14? She's going to need all the support she can get.
2006-11-15 17:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her parents, but do tell her to do so. Being scared of telling your parents is not a smart choice because they will find out sooner or later. She should be able to trust them. Hopefully she will have their support. She will need it. She has to remember that she needs medical care and that pregnancy at a young age is very risky and therefore someone has to take her to the doctor. Don't worry she will appreciate whatever it is that you do because you are being a friend and it's for her own good. =]
2006-11-15 17:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Life comes 2 those that are true 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear this is a tough one. Your friend needs to talk to someone NOW. Offer to go with her to tell her mom, or a teacher you can both trust. The sooner her support system kicks in, the better for her. I know you really badly want to tell someone. You have to take the risk of losing her trust if you do. Urge her to tell someone. Say you'll be with her all the way. Could you possibly tell your own mom, and ask her to speak to your friend's mom? She can't go on this way, sooner or later, someone is going to ask why she is crying in class every day.
2006-11-15 17:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be A Good Friend, And Tell Her Parents...Shes Going thru a big change and is gonna need proper medical help...just make sure your there with her, so her parents dont over react...b/c sumtimes parents do, and its not alwayz a good outcome...what was she doing with a 17 year old anyway..?¿ just make sure that your there for her..!
GOOD LUCK..!
2006-11-15 23:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in her best interest AND the baby's best interest for you to tell a responsible adult. If you don't feel comfortable telling her parents, tell your guidance counselor at school. That is what they are there for. Your friend might be upset with you at first but in the long run I think that she will realize you told because you care.
2006-11-15 18:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by penguinstorey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to tell her mom. She has options and either way she needs to have medical care. Being pregnant at 14 is hard. I was pregnant at that age and even with my mothers help it was rather hard to deal with.
2006-11-15 17:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, DO NOT go to her parents. that will just make things harder for your friend. i think you should encourage her to tell her parents, because they will find out eventually. tell her that you dont want your friendship to be ruined, but you also dont want her life to be ruined. once she knows that your intentions are to help her, she will probably understand where you are coming from.
2006-11-15 18:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to ruin your friendship trust me. Nobody likes a big mouth.
2006-11-15 18:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try and convince her that it would be best for her and her baby if she tells her family or some other reliable adult. You can't take full responsibility for her, she has to be mature and do it her self, she will feel better and will not mess up your relationship. she has her own parent(s) and you are not them so you should mind your business.
2006-11-15 17:51:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋