I love my husband. But I recently met this guy who is 10 years younger than me and from a different country and I feel like I did when I was in high school! Is this normal to get crushes on people even though there is not a possibility for anything in the future? Is it wrong?
2006-11-15 09:30:46 · 25 answers · asked by Allison W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a very fine line here on this one where it could tip to the wrong side very easy. While you are having these feelings toward this other person, think how you would feel IF your husband had these feelings with another woman besides you.
To be on the safe side, what I would do is to let your husband know about this friend and you don't talk to this friend when your husband is not around and never met this person with out your husband. Keep NO secrets from your husband what so ever.
Watch your crush on this person, you should not have that feeling for sure, that is a feeling that you should have for your husband and then some...if you know what I mean....
2006-11-15 09:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you keep your distance so that the crush doesn't become a reality! Yes you can still get crushes. If it is normal.....I'm not sure. It is wrong if you are not doing your best to respond to it and avoiding it. Faithfulness and adultery starts in the mind.
I feel that there is more than one person for each of us, but that is depending on what we are looking for at the time. Not everyone marries or stays married to their first love! I don't know about you, but, I've seen my first crush. I am ever so glad that that was all he was!
2006-11-15 09:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg ur only 14 how can a 14year old be suicidal u have all ur life 2 live 4 pls don't say things like dat just remember evey day is a gd day not a bad day be 4 u no it u will be a happy little girl going 2 movies party's 4get about ur teacher care 4 u and u only u are number 1 always remember that take care
2016-03-28 21:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't get crushes on people, I'd worry. It's perfectly natural to be drawn to people who are new and fascinating. Part of the human experience is novelty. Just know where the line is and don't cross it. In fact, take all of that penned up attraction home to your husband. I'm sure that you'll both enjoy that.
2006-11-15 09:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by TheAdviceGuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you can get feelings. But the question is why are not guarding your heart and safeguarding your marriage.
Love is not simply a feeling. Marriage is ultimately a comittment, a promise not regarding how you are going to feel, because feelings ebb and flow. Instead, marriage is a comittment to action.
So you can feel all sorts of things, but how are you going to act? Are you going to honor your vows everyday, or are you going to be driven by whatever feeling comes upon you in a particular moment?
Only you can answer those questions.
2006-11-15 09:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a crush on a married co-worker while I was married to my husband. I didnt' realize how bad the crush was.
I eventually divorced my husband and married the co-worker....so is it wrong? Yes. Is it trouble? Yes. Why put yourself in a situation that is potentially dangerous? Frankly, I think we all trust ourselves way too much until we realize how fickle our emotions can be.
2006-11-15 09:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very normal to get crushes. It's also normal to feel guilty about. But as long as you still treat your husband good and you aren't cheating then I think a little crush is just fine. I promise you your husband looks at other women and thinks they're hot sometimes.
2006-11-15 09:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think it's wrong, so long as you don't act on these feelings.
if they are just crushes, then what's the harm. after all we get crushes on famous people we don't even know, but realise they are just harmless fantasies.
if your marriage is having problems, then that's another issue you need to take control of, starting with some honest and open communication with your hubby.
but if things are just passing fads with the latest cute guy, and you don't act on them (ie flirting isn't good as it opens the door that leads to Pandora's box) then enjoy your moments, as I'm sure your hubby has crushes on the latest Coors Lite girl or Playboy of the month...
2006-11-15 09:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to get crushes, but I suspect that this migtht be more than a crush. Why do you feel like you did in high school? Surely this doesn't happen with every guy you meet!
2006-11-15 09:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong? yes Is it normal? Only if there are issues in your marriage that are not being addressed. Back off from this guy and get busy being a wife (its a full time job if it is done right)
2006-11-15 09:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋