Do all women say "I don't want to get married" before they get married ?

Question

If a woman who wants to get married, and she says "I don't want to get married", isn't that dishonest ? Why would anybody marry a woman who says "I don't want to get married" ? Does saying "I don't want to get married" somehow make a woman more attractive ? If a woman doesn't want to get married, won't she make a lousy wife ? Why would a woman who doesn't want to get married enjoy being married ? What's to stop her from going for a divorce the minute her marriage gets difficult ?

Answer 1

They say that to put you at ease, so you will lower your guard. Also to increase your desire - you know, we want what we can't have.

Good-Luck!

Answer 2

wow, negative, negative... you've obviously wanted to get married your whole life, huh? No, not ALL women say they don't want to get married before they do. Some women just plain don't, and so guess what? They don't! Some women do, but they don't because they can't find a partner they're willing to spend the rest of their lives with. Seriously, wake up... For me, I know that someday I probably will want to be married, but I don't know why I feel that way, because I'm probably the exact opposite of what a man would want in a wife if he's anything like what I've seen with other married couples. I don't cook, I don't do other people's laundry, I don't clean up after anybody except when they're helping, and I don't massage anybody's egos unless I absolutely have to. So in answer to your question, no, a woman is allowed to change her mind just as much as any man is about marriage (hell, how many MEN do you see who say they don't want to get married, and yet end up married anyways?), which is why it isn't dishonest. It's only dishonest if she still feels that way and yet marries anyway. A woman who says "I don't want to get married" may seem more attractive to men who don't want a commitment like that or one like it yet, because it puts less pressure on them if they feel/know that they're not looking at a longtime thing. The answer to the last question should be obvious by now.

Answer 3

What she's really saying is "I don't want to get married RIGHT NOW." It's kind of like saying, "I don't feel like going to the movies" or "I don't care for a steak." Neither of those signal an absolute preference...they both just indicate a current frame of mind.

Look at her perspective. If she said, "I want to get married," then most guys would run in terror. If you use the translation to "I don't want to get married RIGHT NOW," then suddenly it means, "I don't rule it out, but it has to be the right guy." That sounds friendlier, right?

All women eventually want a long-term relationship. Genetically, they're hard-wired that way. So if you enjoy being around her and she's not ready to get married, then don't worry about it. You're basically putting way too much thought into what is really a basic response from almost every woman on the planet.

Answer 4

That's a confusing question. Some women are honest and some play games. Some might want to and some might not want to. Almost all the ones I've ever known wanted to. The ones who said they didn't ended up to be the biggest desperadoes and schemers of all. I appreciate and up front, honest, mature woman. That's why I married an older woman that knew what she wanted. But that's another story. Some women try to play by that book "The Rules" and think that's how to get a guy to marry them. There are a lot of books out there that tell women to be hard to get and don't tell the guy how much you like him and lots of other crap. I think it's a real turn off.

Answer 5

I never said that. I enjoyed being single a lot, but I wanted to get married eventually. I like being married. But I can imagine that there are people who don't want to get married, I don't see anything wrong with that. If someone chooses to pursue a woman who states she "doesn't want to get married" - it is their personal business. I don't know how a woman who doesn't want to get married would make a good or a lousy wife - being that she doesn't want to be a wife at all.

Answer 6

I have reported that i do not favor to get married formerly and it replaced into highly because of the failings happening in my existence and what my kinfolk or friends were going via. a good number of divorce round me, yet I keep in mind that I do favor to get married, I purely didnt favor to get married for the incorrect motives or too quickly. i'm with the guy that I plan on marrying and that i look ahead to the forged cases and complicated cases and the exertions that is going with making a wedding ceremony powerful.

Answer 7

Alot of women say they dont want to get married because they feel like big losers because they are not already married.
Society makes us feel like we are old maids if we arent married by the time we are 25. Saying "I dont want to get married" is making people think that I am single because I want to be not because I havent found the right guy.

If you are engaged & your woman is saying she doesnt want to get married........then RUN FOR THE HILLS, but if this is just a general question.......there is your answer.

Answer 8

I think sometimes people say that to protect themselves. I have a very good friend who says "this is why I'm still single" everytime one of her friends has a relationship issue.

The real reason she's still single is because she is too scared to get herself out there and is afraid of rejection.

I believe when anyone consistantly says "I don't want to be married" or "I don't want to date" they are trying to convince themselves as well as others that this is true.

If they dig deep down in their heart, I think it's just a brick wall they are putting up to avoid the truth.

Good luck with this.

Answer 9

There is no rule for all women. But don't hurt yourself listening to her mouth so much, read the rest of her language. She will be very concise as to her interest in the subject regarding you. Learn to read the whole package. Women might say exactly what they mean and then may do the opposite. Or she may just be confused or afraid.

But that's no reason for you to miss out on the fun!

Good luck!!

Answer 10

for the most part, women think that men are afraid that we're trying to "tie them down". if a woman lets him get wind of the fact that she's ready for a serious relationship, then he'll run the other direction as fast as he can.
there's also the fact that some women REALLY don't want to get married, but then they stumble into that one perfect person that changes their mind. aawwwww. :)

Answer 11

Maybe they say it because they didn't know they did want to get married, until they met Mr. Right. I personally don't know any women that run around telling dates that they don't want to get married. You just never know!