Ive been with this guy on and off for almost three years.... he has cheated on me at lease 2 times and left me 2 times.... he now tells me that he has changed that he loves me more than anything in this world and he would never hurt me again. there is still so much that does'nt make sense he acts funny and i dont trust him i question everything he does but everytime we fight he right there trying to fix things and has been devoting all his time to me lately... i relly dont know what to do. i love him sooooo much but im not so sure that i can live this way but he hurts me to much not to be with him,,, ive giiven him so many chances but he keeps screwing up... im just so confused?
2006-11-15 09:09:19 · 33 answers · asked by lost and confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok. What do YOU think?? If a friend gave you this same information you just gave me......what would you tell her to do??
You know that he has cheated on you TWO TIMES......
do you REALLY think that he is worth getting hurt for a THIRD time??
Honey, I hope you're smarter than that. I know it sucks and you hurt, but you have already invested THREE years of your life
with this guy. Cut your losses and move on. A guy who really loves you is not going to want to be with another woman.
2006-11-15 09:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Trish 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem. I was so in love that I thought the world would end if I let him go. Don't settle for less just because you think you won't find another. I used to think that I didn't want to start over with someone else after I had invested so much of myself in him but If he cheated once and then again he will find himself in temptation again no matter how good it's going for you guys the second or third time around. He isn't gonna change I learned the heartbreaking way. If he doens't cheat now that doesn't mean he won't weaken down the road.
2006-11-15 09:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Viviana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Ditch him. Your gonna feel hurt,lost, and confused for quite awhile. You don't deserve to be treated like that. You are better than that.. Keep repeating the last two sentences to yourself, and you will believe it.:) I've been there, didn't know if i did the right thing or not, made the guy upset, he said he had no idea why i was breakin up with him etc,etc.. I felt so guilty and was so unsure of what i was doing.. it took a few weeks to get it together and see i was right :)..Good luck :)
2006-11-15 09:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rain32 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said "ive giiven him so many chances but he keeps screwing up"- so he has a history of screwing up. Why should you trust him? He's not a very nice person, and I think you need to end it for good, recover from his betrayal by not talking to him again, and when you're feeling better, meet a loyal, honest man who will make a good husband and father.
2006-11-15 09:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As much as it may hurt, if you are not willing to spend the rest of your life being suspicious and questioning everything he does, it's best to just move on without him. Yes, maybe he has changed, at least for now, but he can never bring back the trust that he lost. Take it from someone who's been where you are and didn't do the right thing...please.
2006-11-15 09:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by rdnck_grl_ms_007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gurl i know it's hard. specially if it's some1 u REALLY love. and u said it ur self. he keep screwin up. sometimes ppl can 4give. and as they say once a cheater always a cheater. but i believe that ppl can change if they really want their relationship to work out.
but now that u said he acts funny and u can't trsut him then i think by the time u gonna slip from each other. coz wot is a relastionship without trust?
Don't make some1 hurts u. If he don't care about u and cheated one u twice. then don't wait too much. i mean then he think he can do it and then u'll 4give him.
ps. there is a lot of nice guys who know how to treat u good. believe me.
U think twice about it be4 u deciede. so u dont endin up wit u took da wrong way to deal wit da problem.
good luck.
2006-11-15 09:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by lil_g_aka_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be confused. Hes just taking advantage of you, your especially letting him do it. Don't trust him! "i have changed" Is the biggest load of crap i have ever heard from someone, if they broke your trust more than once, why should you give them another chance to break it? I understand you love him but you need to end this now. Trust me when I loved someone really great but they rejected me, I was sad for a couple of days, but found someone even better. Trust me, your love will spread. Send the guy on the streets, don't let him treat you that way!
2006-11-15 09:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Onikura O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHADDUP KEVIN! You'se NEEDZ to STAYZ IN SCHOOL! OK, now to you, one thing I have learned in life honey, is once a cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER. The only problem is, whose cheater is he going to be? Is he going to be yours? Someone else's? Do you want to be the one he does one more time? Do you want to be the one when you are married to and pregnant for the first time, and he is "out with the boyz" instead home putting together the babys crib? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm? Wanna wait till you have 3 kids? OK? When? The pain is temporary compared to the lifetime of pain you could have ahead of you. Some guys, once a girl has taken them back, straighten up, but twice? No no no no no no.....he's figured out you forgave him once shame on him, you forgave him twice shame on you. Wanna go for three? Good luck!
2006-11-15 09:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No more chances. I've been there. Yes, it is POSSIBLE that he can change, but unlikely. My ex didn't change until after we were divorced and I was remarried. By that time, I was (and am) the happiest woman in the world! I only THOUGHT I ever loved that man. I never knew what love really was until I met my current husband. Get out there and find a real man. They ARE out there! God bless!
2006-11-15 09:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and move on. Once a cheater always a cheater. Plus you stated you don't trust him. What kind of relationship is that? A piss poor one, that's what it is. Who cares if he's nice today... tomorrow he may screw you over... AGAIN! How many times do you have to get burned before you realize you're better off without him?
2006-11-15 09:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by wolvie145 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋