I told my close female friend how I felt about her and she said that we should just remain friends.She said that:
She doesn't deserve my feelings-meaning?
She can't imagine me not being in\a part of her life-meaning?
We left on good terms,agreeing to remain friends always.After this happened I went quiet on her for over a week to clear my head!She txt me once asking why I went quiet and also txt my mate asking him. I got bck in touch on Monday and her reply mentioned nothing bout what I said(how I felt about her).
I txt her saying how impt the friendship is to me and apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable and hope that we’re cool.Why hasn’t she txt bck for over a day now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I say anything wrong?
Will the friendship be the same?? What is she thinking\feeling??Would she behave differently towards me??
Anyone been in this situation themselves?If so,what happened?Anything I can do?
2006-11-15 08:53:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She's probably just feeling a little awkward about the situation. She may just need a little time to work things out in her own head and probably thinking some of the same stuff that you are, like weather it will change things or not.
She's only ever considered you as a friend and you have thrown something she was not expecting into the mix.
As far as her just wanting to remain friends, this could mean either of 2 things.
1. That she is not attracted to you and looks on you as only a friend.
2. She really values you as a friend and doesn't want to compromise the friendship in any way.
Either way, unless you clear the air you do risk damaging the friendship a little. She may not feel like she knows where she stands with you anymore which could make her feel a little insecure.
Suppose what I'm trying to say is just talk to her openly, face to face and assure her that your still the same person and that you would more than love to continue with the friendship that you already have.
Good luck. xx
2006-11-15 09:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Nutty Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she's being polite, like girls try to be if they're nice people.
"I don't deserve your feelings" = "I don't return your feelings"
"I can't imagine you not being in my life" = "You're a great friend and I rely on you, but I don't return your feelings." Chances are, she may have feelings for someone else.
Be careful of texting - it's really easy to misread intentions behind such a short message. I think you need to tell her that you just wanted to clear your head, that you weren't mad at her (which she probably thought that you were). Also, I wouldn't read much into her not mentioning it... basically I would recommend that you sit down and have one talk about it, and then NEVER mention it again, unless circumstances change.
The friendship will be different, at least for a while. You'll probably feel like a bit of a goof, and she'll probably feel embarrassed. But you'll get through it.
I don't know what she's thinking or feeling, but you can be sure that she's still your friend. And remember that if you needed time, so might she. Just don't let it drag on too long.
Invite her out for the sort of activity you used to enjoy together, give her a hug, say "I'm sorry I was a dick" in a light-hearted way, and then just get on with being friends.
Girls tend to appreciate their friends for a much longer time than they do their bfs or people they fancy from afar. Her feelings might change (I have known this to happen) BUT you shouldn't hang out for it. Appreciate who she is and what she is able to give you. No pressure. And be there for her.
Good luck. You sound like a nice person, I am sure things will work out.
2006-11-15 09:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Greta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I told someone else in a similiar situation.... people only want to remain friends in hopes that the other persons feelings will eventually change and they can get together.
You like this girl & that is why you are friends with her.
Also, you should not apologize for your feelings. You like her...
she doesnt like you.......so be it. Move on.
If you are able to be friends again.......it will happen. Just dont try and push it. Let it happen naturally.
2006-11-15 08:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your both feeling awkward, good true friend's never fade, it will pass, i think everyone has been there done that wore the t shirt!
I wouldn't worry just wait till she gets in touch with you! x
2006-11-15 08:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming your male!!!!...Why spoil a good friendship.........thats why male and female friends should stay plantonic, seriously, as a friend she will always be there for you. Love comes and goes, friendship can last a lifetime
2006-11-15 09:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by flippling flishy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space, if you two are good friends, she will be in touch.... Stop worrying so much...
2006-11-15 08:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by P-Nut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a few days to sort her head
2006-11-15 12:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by cindy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's doin to you what you did to her or maybe something happened just relax alittle bit and when she's ready to talk to you she will
2006-11-15 09:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, YOU'RE JUST FRIENDS. never ever try to go for your best frined because it is always messy
2006-11-15 08:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP ASKING THE SAME QUESTION AND BEING A DIFFERENT PERSON!
2006-11-15 08:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋