2006-11-15 08:43:26 · 27 answers · asked by Rosie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They aren't things that affect them directly but it would definitely change their opinion of me and make them think I was a bad person.
2006-11-15 08:53:01 · update #1
its all depends on how long you've been friends with them, as well as how long you've known them for. if you trust them enough to know they're not going to spill the beans to other people or to someone else, then you can. but it also depends on what you're telling them. if its that bad or terrible, do you trust them enough to know that they're not going to laugh or make fun of you? i've done a few things which i regret doing and told them about it to two of my best mates, and they didn't laugh or take the piss out of me afterwards. we all mistakes in our lives anyway; nobody's perfect and everyone must have had a dark past or secret. we
all did silly things we regret throughout our lives. but the whole point in life is to make mistakes, learn from them and to move on forward. life is a learning curve, a cycle of learning.
if its really really bad though, then perhaps its not worth mentioning it at all. why don't you ask your friends what their response would be if you told them that you haven't been a good person during the past. if they are sympathetic, supportive and very understandable, then you might as well go ahead and tell them what happened.
2006-11-15 10:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your past is your past. Everybody has things that they are ashamed of. You dont have to tell your friends if you dont want to, but if you think it will make you feel better with their support then you should.
It may change the way you feel about your friends forever and that can be a good thing or a bad thing.
If they are true friends then they probaly wont judge you for past mistakes.
2006-11-15 08:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your friends, you never know what will happen to the information you gave them, should you end the friendship. Keep things to yourself, the less people know about terrible things in the past the better off you will be. Don't let things come back to bite you.
2006-11-15 08:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to agree with many of the already posted answers but I am a strong supporteer of the what is in the past stays int eh past option. At the end of the day, your friends should only judge you on the person you are NOW and not what you did before you knew them. on a more personal level, if 90% of my friends I have NOW knew about my past they would not have anythingto do with me but as it stands i have a good close circle of friends who respect for the person i am and do not judge me on events they can not change nor can they judge me for it.
Life is for living now rather than haunting yourself by past misdeeds or momentary lapses of common sense
2006-11-15 08:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how close the friends are and what the secrets are, tell people what you want them to know and nothing more, you can always tell them later on when you trust them a bit more
2006-11-15 08:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Tallulah♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what the terrible thing was. also if they aretrue friends i'm sure they wil forgive you. i did some bad things when i was younger and told my friends they were supportive and gave advice. secrets always have a way of coming out its always better to be open and honst now rather then waiting till you get found out good luck
2006-11-15 08:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now think of approximately this. in case you hit upon out who reported what, might it actual remember? might it make a distinction? in the event that they have been acquaintances they might enable it blow over interior a week or so. it particularly is been reported or maybe with who reported what, they're nonetheless disillusioned and the secret grew to become into leaked.
2016-10-22 03:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u dont have to tell anyone anything u dont want them to kno and that wouldnt be lying. You simply dont want people judging u based upon things you've done in the past. If u ever get into a deep relation/friendship with someone and the topic comes up dont lie to them tho and if they dont wanna be ur friend anymore becuz of ur past (keyword PAST) then they dont deserve ur friendship anyways...GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-15 08:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Miz AmERYKA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly only you can decide to tell or not. If it's not something that will hurt them, then I don't see why you should tell them. But if it's something you're still dealing with and it could cause problems for those around you then you should tell them. But if it doesn't have any effect on them it's really nobodys business but your own unless you choose otherwise.
2006-11-15 08:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its in the past then it doesnt matter now anyways but if they're true friends then they should know u well enough to know what sort of person u really are and it wont effect their opinion of u at all x x
2006-11-15 20:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋