Are men who change diapers perverted and unmanly?

Question

My grandpa took me to a friend's house because I wanted to drop off some brownies. Well, when I was inside I saw my friend's husband changing his baby's diaper. I was so horrified because I have never seen that before. My husband told me men who do that are perverted and not manly. What should I do? I usually don't like to make waves but this really bothered me.

Answer 1

A man who fathers a child has a RESPONSIBILITY to help feed, clothe, educate and raise said child. Why would any part of the above be "perverted" or "unmanly"?

Answer 2

Are you serious? If you are, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with a man changing his own baby's diapers. He helped to create this child and will help raise it, so why not change the diapers. Who ever said this was a woman's job?

If you have or had children, wouldn't you want your husband helping you in every way possible? Not to mention, an infant depends on it's parents for every single solitary thing and changing it's diaper is included. Mothers cannot be with their children 24/7, so good, loving fathers pitch in and help raise their children.

Personally, I think there's nothing more masculine than a man taking care of his responsibilities including changing his child's diaper, cleaning up his child's vomit, and even combing his little girl's hair. It is all a part of fatherhood.

Anyone, and I do mean anyone, who says it's perverted is the one who has their mind in the gutter and needs counseling.

Answer 3

What era, or planet is your husband from? Or, better yet...YOU REALLY FELL FOR THAT?! Why shouldn't a man change his baby's diapers? I have 3 kids and my husband and I both changed their diapers, fed them, wiped their runny noses, etc. Let me tell you, NO ONE would say my kids dad was unmanly...most people are intimidated by him and show him nothing but respect, and he would be the first to tell you that it's BOTH parents responsibility to take care of the needs (ALL NEEDS) of their kids! I'd say a man that can't or won't handle diaper duty is a wimp! As far as you saying that it's "perverted," well, that would totally depend on if the person was doing something that was inappropriate with a child, and THAT'S a TOTALLY different issue.

Answer 4

All of the women I know would bow down and worship this man. He is actually helping his wife. Not sitting on the couch, scratching himself while your tending to his children. A man should help out his wife and changing a diaper isn't going to hurt him. Your husband is saying that so he doesn't have to change a diaper or he has deeper issues. Most men would rather die than to do that so I commend him for being a respectable husband/father. My sister put her fist through a window because her husband (who was sitting on the couch watching football and drinking a beer listening to the children scream to the top of their lungs) wouldn't help her with their two children, which were only 11 months apart. It is not perverted to change a diaper. It is not perverted to kiss your child. It is not perverted to love and respect your wife enough to help her out. Manly my butt. It's manly to help your wife and child. It isn't manly to sit their and just watch her do all the work. He helped make the child, he can help take care of it.

Answer 5

I think it is very "manly" (and thoughtful, not to mention father's SHOULD share in the care of their children!) for a father to change his child's diaper. I don't understand why your husband would tell you that its perverted for a man to change his child's diaper (even if its a female child) - is it perverted for a mother to change her son's diaper? I think not - its a necessary task, and men should definitely help out here. I find it incredibly heartwarming to hear about men who actually participate in raising their children, not just leaving everything to the mother!

Answer 6

My husband and I are expecting our first and I expect him to help change diapers. When our nephew comes to stay with us, he changes his diaper. I am not sure why changing an innocent baby's diaper would be considered perverted... unless the person doing it has perverse intentions. Does your husband help clean the house or do laundry or cook? Because some people consider those things unmanly too...

Most women expect their spouses to help with all baby things including, bathing, dressing, changing, feeding, cuddling, etc.

Answer 7

Your husband is either lazy or stupid: I change my son's diapers (although not as often as my wife may wish), and I can tell you there is no way that can be construed as perverted. How would you even think to argue that? On what grounds?

What you should be horrified at is the fact that your husband would tell you something so obviously wrong.

Answer 8

You think a man sharing family responsibilities is unmanly and perverted? Most women would love a husband who shares the load! And for crying out loud, he was changing a diaper, not fondling his child!

Answer 9

LOL your hubby just doesn't want yto have to change diapers when you two have a baby. That's why he's trying to convince you it's perverted.

I raised my kids... I fed them, I bathed them and I changed them... it's all part of being a mom or a dad. Why should the mom be the only one with the responsibility of caring for the child? Pervert? I think not... a real man that is secure with himself...yes!

Answer 10

That is the Dumbest thing I have ever heard. How does changing your child's diaper make you a pervert? Your husband needs to grow up.

Answer 11

Changing diapers, all things associated with child raising are the responsibility of the mother. You friends husband has succumbed to pressures from outside the home and should have known better. Tell your husband and maybe he can have a talk with her husband.