i have a boyfriend. well this guy called me he had got my number from one of my friends, yestarday he sent me roses to work. i called him and told him thank u. he told me that he wants me to dump my bf for him but he will be leaving to the army in january. but he is a really nice guy!!! my bf lives 45 miles away from me.
2006-11-15 08:27:03 · 5 answers · asked by mustangsweetthing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't say how well you know this "really nice guy" (probably not all that well, if he had to get your number from a friend instead of from you directly). You don't say if he knows your current bf. You don't say if your current bf is a good guy or not, or what the state of your relationship with him is.
Let's assume the current guy is an ok dude who is doing right by you, more or less, with the occasional idiotic brain cramp here and there that all guys (and girls too) are prone to.
This new guy is totally okay with depriving another guy (who we're assuming here is an alright guy, if not a total prince) of his girlfriend, as long as YOU do the hard part of dumping him. Just sweep the bf out of the way like some inconvenient, annoying little insect...? That hurts another human being. That seems really selfish and cowardly to me. Impoverishing others to enrich oneself is greedy and self-serving, especially since he's probably happy not to even confront the boyfriend himself (maybe he is willing to...but then it'll just be some macho thing...)
45 miles is nothing. Give up your bf if he *deserves* it, or if the relationship is genuinely flawed or running out of steam. Otherwise this pushy new guy strikes me as too aggressive. The guy's motivation should be that he'll make you happier than you are now. It sounds like his motivation is to make himself happy, and you're just a means to an end...and it's okay to make other people suffer a little if that's the quickest route to scratch his itch.
2006-11-15 08:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by joseph_strummer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I miss the part in this where the guy who sent you roses and you suddenly developed a deeply fulfilling relationship?
Maybe he has just pegged you as a sucker that he can have his jollies with before he leaves for the army (assuming he is really doing that).
Unless there are more probs with your boyfriend than being 45 miles away, I say stay with him and stop talking to the stalker guy.
2006-11-15 16:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because of some one, you don’t need to do some thing. First of all he doesn’t have any chance to ask you that “drop your BF”. How you are telling that he is good? I don’t know why you took this in you mind. Did you ever thing about your BF? In every river for every rain there will be new water. But it’s not river mistake. But river can’t do any thing, because it’s part of the river life. But we are humans, we have chance what to choose what to not. I don’t wanna say some thing bad. First of all you should know what is what? And U should judge. I think you can. Good luck. Hoping, U will be with Ur BF for ever.
2006-11-15 16:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rama K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no
2006-11-15 16:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you WANT to do.
so do it!
2006-11-15 16:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋