Having several affairs without guilt but quite certain I love my husband.
2006-11-15 08:13:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I do think that they are 2 totally different things. Some people just can't be satisfied with one person. I really don't think that us as humans are built to be monogamous it is something that society has dictated that we do. I think that you can love your husband and want to make LOVE to him but I also think that it is really possible to just want to have sex with someone else. If your ok with what you are doing and are happy that is what really matters
2006-11-15 08:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Duece 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, sex and love are two totally different things. Both have their place in a healthy relationship. I mean, you make love to someone you care about deeply and feel a strong emotional tie with. But sometimes you still feel the urge for a really good f*cking too. That's where sex comes into play. When the two of you can really get your groove on and do some wild f*ckin' just for the pure physical satisfaction of it.
As for having several affairs without guilt because you are certain you love your husband, I would ask you one simple question. Does he know you are stepping out with other men? If so, and this is some kind of swinging adventure that he is okay with it, then to each their own.
But if not, and you are keeping it a secret from him, then you have a funny way of showing your love for him. In my mind, if you have any respect for him at all, you will just leave him and move on. If you are incapable of doing that then you shouldn't be surprised when he leaves you after he finds out...and he will find out eventually, they always do.
2006-11-15 08:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and love are two different things, but can be combined in a good relationship. Sex can be a way of expressing love for someone. Unless you have an "open" marriage, if you truly loved your husband, then you'd feel guilty for having an affair. Sex is having the affair, love is what prevents you from having one.
2006-11-15 08:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Eric B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not love your husband if you are having several affairs without guilt! When you love someone, you are committed to that person and that person only! You seem like a selfish person who only thinks of their own feelings!
2006-11-15 08:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes sex and love are two different things. sex has no feeling, no emotions. u can get up and leave without ever seeing one other again. with love u have emotions, feeling. the sex feels different. u know this with all your affairs your having. u say u love your husband and u might, however your husband not good in bed. that's sad that u can't tell your husband want u like. one day all those affairs are going to catch up with u. to u it might be fun now but one day it's not. u so want u weep. that **** going to hit u in your ***.
2006-11-15 08:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity is a pattern of behavior that seeks self-satisfaction at the expense of commitment to another. It strikes at the core defining characteristics of marriage:
Two people determine to share themselves with each other in a way that is unique to them and not shared by others.
They agree that the levels of trust and accountability, expected of each other will be greater than found in any other of their relationships.
They share physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual intimacy, not found in other relationship.
Their relationship is permanent and unconditional.
The first steps taken when infidelity occurs are
1) to decide to seek fulfillment through someone else and,
2) to decide to do this secretly.
In a sense, whatever a person decides to give to a new partner outside the marriage is taken from his or her spouse: time, money, special experiences, confidences, or intimacies.
Infidelity almost always indicates that there is not an effective way to communicate dissatisfaction within the marriage.
Infidelity may signal a person’s dissatisfaction with themselves, rather than their partner. They may want to feel different or be different. Although dissatisfaction with partner or yourself are major causes, there are others who engage in an affair or infidelity purely for the sex. They do not want their relationship to end, they simply seek the thrill that being with someone else brings. Either way, the pain, humiliation and betrayal are the same.
2006-11-15 08:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is from a 60 year old man. I hope I don't bore you.
Sex, and love are two different things. I was married for 33 years to the most incredible woman. She was killed in a car accident at the age of 49. She was not only my lover, but my best friend. We didn't have SEX, we made LOVE. Yes, it is wrong to have sex, just for sex. To make LOVE is the greatest passion of all!!!
2006-11-15 08:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sex and love can be very different things, and they can be the same. No there is nothing wrong with that, though there is something wrong with decieved your spouse. You made a commitment, and now have a choice to make, continue or to stop, and be faithful. If you decide to continue, you have to be willing to accept all consequences of your actions. Maybe having an open marriage may be an option, but he will not be blind and dumb forever.
2006-11-15 09:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by .... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and love are 2 totally different things----sex is the act of sexual intercourse and love is a devotion and caring toward another person--there are 3 kinds of love
romantic, sexual love
brotherly love/love for friends
love for ones self/self love
some people have lust and that is why they have sex, but i think you should love someone first and then have sex, because sex without love, feeling, commitment, attachment or care can cause some real problems. In my experience, sex with someone you love is the best kind, not new sex with some stranger or casual sex with someone you don't care about---just my 2 cents!
2006-11-15 08:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you love yourself more than you love your husband. As a matter of fact, it seems like you hate your husband! The reason why is, if you are cheating on him, how do you know you do not have hiv or another std? You could turn around and give it to him, and once he finds out about your cheating (and he will), he wil be ruined for any other woman. How do you really love him and you are not happy with him sexually. Just file the papers, sweetheart.
2006-11-15 08:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are different, but they help each other out. If sex isn't going good, then you should talk about it with him.
If you are "quite certain" then you obviously don't love him enough to not cheat on him. You should end it, because this lie will eat at you till tell, and it seems that you don't love him anymore as you did when you first married him.
2006-11-15 08:17:04 · answer #11 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋