I just broke up with my best friend. I am so heartbroken. I want to forget her. How do I go about that? I am so hurt right now.
2006-11-15 08:04:22 · 13 answers · asked by ~*StarryEyedSurprise*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately, there is no easy, quick, or painless way to go about doing that. the trick is time. it takes time, and day after day you'll think about it less. you can however speed the process by taking away things that remind you of her, and surrounding yourself with other good friends to keep your mind off what happened. go out, have a night of fun, wake up and keep busy, thats the best solution until you eventually move on.
2006-11-15 08:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Brad 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain
I have 3 best girlfriends they are all different in there on rights but at the same time they are all important to me. I tried making it so we could all be friends but sometimes your friends are just that, YOUR FRIENDS. It was ok for a month or so, then we decided to have a big grown & sexy lingerie party one weekend. Everything was cool until my one best friend C got drunk, & starting cussing everyone out & beating people up. We were so upset She punched my one friend M in the face, and threw my other friend K in a bush and me threw a window. Next thing I new we all get a message from her that we werent her friend because we left & let her go to jail (?) & never call her again.
I was so hurt I went into a deep depression, I havent been out since really, I stopped drinking & smoking ciggerettes, occasionally Ive seen my other two friends but ive decided not to mix them. Which is hard I want all my friends around me.
I started focasing on my home, kids, school & work, and I picked up a new boyfriend. Months went by I hadnt talked to C, everyone would asked if I did, or why I wouldnt call her, I felt she owed me a apoligy. I was heartbroken, sick, I wanted to forget she existed but couldnt, even after deleting her from my life . 5 mths passed & I get this message on my myspace from C, she apoligized, and that was all I really needed. its been about a month & Ive been taking it slow we havent hung out mostly phone calls. However time Heels old wounds and you are able to repair relationships although we are not were we were Im glad to have my friend back.
I dont know why you broke up with your friend but give it time. I certainly hope it wasnt over a man the bond between girl friends is a sisterhood, men come and go but friendships can last forever even if you have breaks in between.
2006-11-15 16:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, I cant really tell how to go about it but the best thing you can do right now is grieve...not keep going over what happened but allow yourself to be sad for awhile. It can actually help you...I dont mean having a pity party for yourself but this also doesn't mean you have to try to to fake that you are all right, party all night and forget ti at all...time can slowly heal and maybe someday you or her...whichever one, can forgive but right now there is no way you can forget. It will take time. Just take one day at a time, and remember...there is always forgiveness no matter what the problem is.
2006-11-15 16:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by baratinha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ever really forget your best friend. They were obviously a big part of your life and you can't just erase that and pretend that it never happened.
First, talk about it with someone. Sometimes just letting out what you're feeling can be therapeutic. Then just try and keep yourself busy to keep your mind from straying to thinking about her and immerse yourself in things. Any things around the house you've maybe put off? Behind at work? Been itching to try new recipes? Just do what makes you happy and try to move on at your own pace. Don't let people rush you, we all do things in our own time.
2006-11-15 16:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sam B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, breaking up with a friend or someone you knew very well hurts a lot in the start, unfortunately, you cannot forget about a tragedy so soon. It takes time for your heart to heal. I remember that I had to break up with a few friends, but I spoke with my other friends, family members, and I even went to a youth worker. They can really help!
2006-11-15 16:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
true friends are hard to come by, so my only answer will be to learn from what made this happen. This is a part of growing up, so throw that bone into the closet and keep looking for the happiness you so well deserve. I hope this info helps you. Life go on.
2006-11-15 16:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I know how THAT feels. You should look around. Who out there may not have alot of friends? Who would you like to get to know better? Strike up a converstion with that person and eventually you may become friends. Life moves on...in the meantime do everything you would normally do with that friend with someone else.
2006-11-15 16:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by lysette.oxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over the hurt and best friends are forever you are never going to forget her, best friends always break-up and make-up that is why they are called best friends.
2006-11-15 16:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why your not freinds. But you make the desicion. If it was something pretty petty then you be the machore one to confront
them and talk about it. Everyone doesn't always see eye to eye, but
at least theres a chance you will become freinds again!
2006-11-15 16:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Angelbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, its going to be hard. But maybe if you have some other friends hangout with them. Try to get your mind off things. Do things you like to do. Try to have a good time.
:) Smile!
2006-11-15 16:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by kicknkay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋