I have been violated and disrespected so many times, hopefully this person will rehabilitate, but when you love I guess you just love.
2006-11-15 07:44:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-15 07:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by jb 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The man was not the only one who failed, the woman did too. She proceeded with the relationship based on her fantasy of the man rather than the reality of him. If she had any personal pride, she would not tolerate being violated more than once. If she had any self-respect, she would not have tolerated being disrespected. So, what you are describing is a self-loathing woman with low self-esteem who lives in a fantasy world rather than in reality. Not the kind of woman most men would even want a relationship with, let alone a committed relationship. Make yourself a better, more assertive, self-respecting person first; good relationships will follow.
2006-11-15 07:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this world there are the users and those who allow themselves to be used. It's unrealistic to expect people to change when there's no reason to do so. As long as you keep taking abuse, that abuse will continue as it has in the past.
You have the choice as to whether you'll allow things to stay as they are, or whether you'll do something to change the dynamics of the relationship. Symbiotic love is made up of give and take--it doesn't flow in only one direction. You're entitled to get as well as give. This is something you need to realize for yourself before anything else can happen. When you can honestly say, "I'm a valuable loving human being and I deserve better" to yourself, you can make it clear to him.
This may change his behavior, but please be aware that it may not. If he still feels that he's entitled to walk all over you and leaves, you'll be better off without him. At least you'll have one person who respects you--yourself!!!
2006-11-15 09:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Sue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is lacking in self-love,if he loved himself, he would only want the best for himself, meaning you! Even if he does rehabilitate, don;t give him the chance to do what he should have done in the 1 place, which is to return the love and respect you showed him.
2006-11-15 07:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by cphighschoolea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all guys have wondering eyes and it's harder to keep guys occupied than girls. It's nothing you did but guys get board easier. After so long I think they just want somthing new. I think they will only stay faithfull if they TRUELY love you and really believe it couldnt get any better. Hang in there. I hate to say it but you'll be upset in this way alot more than you will be satisfied but I really believe when you find "the one" you will really feel it and know you are safe now.
2006-11-15 07:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by courtney c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love...THATs the problem. Of course it's necessary. But it shouldn't and can't be the only thing that your relationship should be based on. If you ask ten different poeple what the definition of love is, you'll probably get ten different answers. Relationship or marriage should be based on more than just love. It is no doubt necessary, but it, alone, won't safe your relationship.
2006-11-15 07:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by opkansas83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you hurt another person?.... Being violated make you weak... And disrespectful means that you don't love yourself... You should give LOVE a try. OK and love the one you with!
2006-11-15 07:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by see 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are never satisfied. They just are not ready for a true committment. Been there and done that. He is usually looking for something she won't give or do or he just is not satisfied. Their fantasy are far beyond some women and they refuse to be a part of some sick idea.
2006-11-15 08:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by lnd_whitaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a man fails a relationship with a loyal woman it probably cuz he is lacking something from a variety of reasons....insecurity, doesnt know how to handle problems well or solve them, co-dependecy and the llist goes on.sometimes they just are not ready for that kind of relationship.
2006-11-15 07:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew the answer, because I have been honest, respectful, loving. But I think the man I am in love with is cheating on me.
2006-11-15 07:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation.For a long time.Hes immature and needs to grow up.He dumps on you to make himself feel better.Get out of that and away from him.There are better men out there.You will look back and laugh about it later.You will be amazed at how different your life will be.
2006-11-15 12:40:47 · answer #11 · answered by migamw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋