My boss is phenomenal, but there's a co-worker who's very angry, hostile, and bitter and it's wearing me down. In my position, I have to have regular contact with her and it's very stressful. My boss and the HR director have spoken to her several times about how she treats people, but she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong and since no one has been documenting her behavior (there are performance and attendance issues too), they can't fire her yet. I don't have much confidence that this will be resolved and I don't want to leave my boss in a worse position than he's in now (down 1 employee, dealing with the psycho, and then losing me). What do you think?
2006-11-15 07:39:14 · 10 answers · asked by LifesAMystery 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Don't take this wrong, but your boss doesn't sound so phenomenal to me. Part of his job is to ensure he has a functioning team working for him. And a large part of that is morale, discipline and accountability. That having been said, I would be hesitant to tell him you are interviewing. Companies have been known to tell people to pack up their desks when that kind of info gets out. I worked for a company that did just that to a boss of mine. Once you have had a job offer from another company, you can tell him what's going on and give them a last chance to correct the situation. But cover your butt. You want to do the decent thing, but that is trusting that they will do the same. If they don't . . .
2006-11-15 07:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by EC-S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it sounds like you are needing a change in employment because of the "psycho", correct? I think it's perfectly fine to let your supervisor know that you will be interviewing. You will most likely be using him as a reference so you wouldn't want him to get caught off guard if he gets a call. I wouldn't be negative about this. He'll most likely understand why you feel the need to leave but you want to keep your relationship with him good so you don't want him to feel as if you are giving him an ultimatum "Fire her or I'm gone".
Now just as some personal advice from somebody who has "job hopped" a lot in her career--a good boss (and you called him PHENOMENAL) is hard to come by. And you have it! If there is any way you can "ride it out" and start documenting things that the "psycho" is doing and just stay and work hard on your own job..that might be an excellent idea. I've discovered that it's never "greener" on the other side and to me..having a good boss is almost a number one priority!
Good luck. That doesn't sound like a fun situation to be in.
2006-11-15 07:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you have experienced mistreatment by this employee you must file a grievance with your company.
If other people are not coming forward to complain about it there is not much you can do.
Management must not ignore her behavior because it could cause a tremendous downfall in the future. Since they are not giving her warnings or writing her up, maybe she feels threatened and will continue until she is reprimanded.
DO NOT inform your boss you are interviewing. This could very well cause problems for you and you may run the risk of loosing your job. Most employers follow a "employment at will" clause when they terminate employees and they can fire you without notice.
If you receive a job offer and have received and signed an offer letter. Then this is the time to tender your resignation.
Check out this link regarding employment at will:
http://www.bls.gov/opub/mlr/2001/01/art1full.pdf#search='Employment%20at%20%20will'
http://jobsearchtech.about.com/od/laborlaws/l/aa092402.htm
It is worth reading before you make a decision to leave.
Hope this info was helpful. God Bless you!
2006-11-15 07:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by ye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If no one is documenting this co-worker's behavior, it's time someone started. It should start with you. In fact, let her know that you are documenting her behavior, and that reports will be turned in to your boss on a monthly basis.
If that doesn't cool her heels, there are laws against people who create a hostile work environment and you'll pursue legal action if she doesn't shape up. You have a good case, and I think she'll be aware of that.
Good jobs are hard to find. If you like your boss and the job in general, there's no reason why you should have to leave. Be more assertive, utilize the laws and resources that are available to you, and make the shrew either shape up or ship out.
2006-11-15 07:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, let him know only after you have a good job offer from someone else. If he really wants to keep you he will have to do something for you then, like putting the psycho in her place. If you tell him now, you will create an awkward feeling between you, which will not stop if you finally don't find another job. All you can do is complain about the problem, and say "I can't put up with this, it sometimes makes me want to leave this job, despite the good relationship and high esteem I have for you".
2006-11-15 07:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
besides the undeniable fact that it may look that letting the corporate recognize that a fellow worker is actively searching for different employment and plans to go away may nicely be a very good ingredient of do, it by no potential is. It makes you look because the workplace gossip. also, if the corporate is starting up a mission with new software which will require preparation, it type of feels that more effective than one human being must be experienced on the software. perhaps an more advantageous option, because you'd be modern-day in the course of the tutorial era (and your boss has already indicated that she might want to like that you'll proceed to exist previous the present settlement era), is to instruct for your boss that you may want to favor to proceed to be as lively contained in the corporate as conceivable with the intention to instruct your well worth to the corporate, and that you may want to favor to help in this new mission. which could grant you with an probability to get the tutorial without "throwing your co-worker lower than the bus," with the objective to speak.
2016-11-29 04:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work for an employment agency and this would be my recommendation:
Speak to your supervisor, let them know again that due to this conflict in the office that you are going to start looking for other employment. Ensure them that you love your job and the people you work with, but can't tolerate ___. Ensure them you will give the proper two week notice once something comes along. Keep it on a positive note and hope they eliminate this other trouble maker, afraid of loosing a good employee like yourself. No employer needs documentation to fire and employee, she can be fired due to punctuality, personal conflicts, attitude, work ethic....
Good luck.
2006-11-15 08:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let your boss know, because perhaps that will make him more aware of how bad the problem is. If he's about to lose another employee, he might take furthur action. Good Luck!
2006-11-15 07:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely let your boss know. Maybe they will talk to the other employee...or mayb they'll offer you more money ;) either way, to keep her informed of a potential job opening that she's going to need to fill and just to keep her in the loop of what YOURE going thru, I'd let her know asap!
2006-11-15 08:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case, Yes, tell your boss. Life is too short to deal with crap like that.
2006-11-15 07:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋