I am in the process in getting a divorce but I feel as though I need some one is it wrong to want that, and how do I go about it if it is wrong.
2006-11-15 07:20:48 · 14 answers · asked by sweetkandi_cakes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think now is the right time to get involved with someone. Yeah admittedly going through a divorce is really rough and sometimes you need a shoulder to try on or emotional support but getting involved with someone is just adding more emotional baggage you're not ready for. The issues or possible issues you may have as a result of your divorce should be dealt with first and then when your mind is free and you've settled all issues then its ok to get involved with someone. It doesn't hurt to have a friend or relative you can lean on instead.
2006-11-15 07:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling as though you need someone is called being co-dependant. It isn't unusual after being in a long term relationship. You get used to having someone around all of the time. The best thing for you is to take some time for yourself, get used to being alone. That way, when you start a new relationship you will know that you are with them because they are a great person and a good match for you, not just because they were available and filled the void.
2006-11-15 07:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by GreyhoundGirl74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are lucky enough to get a divorce, wait awhile, date, do not get involved in a relationship for at least a year. Give yourself time to adjust, and make sure you have met the person you want to spend a lot of time with. Demand a Condom while dating, it is a wicked world out there.
2006-11-15 07:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by daydoom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no "official" time frame for getting involved after a break-up; could be days, months, years, it depends on you. Be cautious, the "need" to be with someone can lead you to make bad decisions; as long as you're realistic about being "on the rebound", I don't see a reason to not be dating - seeing other people can help take your mind off of things, and show you that there are plenty of other opportunities out there. I just wouldn't be expecting to meet you next "prince charming" just yet.
2006-11-15 07:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with having someone in your life. The divorce is going to happen, you are just waiting for the legal part to make it final. Now unless your soon to be ex is vindictive, I would would wait til the divorce is final. Good luck.
2006-11-15 07:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know when it´s wrong.
If you get a divorce it's because things were not perfect.
If you treat yourself, although if are in the process, maybe things can get a bit hard.
Imagine the type of conversation you would pull up to impress you new friend.
When you get a divorce it is normal to get dirty and loud, unless you were best friends!!!
Wait a bit if you want, go and get it if it pleases you.
Be aware!! People can take advantage of others when they see weakness. don't be naive!
2006-11-15 07:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Maka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY first concern is that you may be one of those ppl who feels incomplete without having a significant partner. If this is the case, then I would say you need to be complete without anybody, then you will be a suitable mate. If you merely need physical affection (Wow, I sound politically correct there!) men are the easiest creatures to manipulate when it comes to that. If you have been in a long seperation and it looks like he is stalling through the preceedings and you are truly ready to develop a relationship, then I say go for it.
2006-11-15 07:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time frame. What it most depends on is what is going on with you. Are you truly over your husband.
Are you looking for someone else to help you feel better about yourself and the loss?
You must first be back to yourself. Do not jump right into another relationship out of need. Wait until you are okay with yourself and know what you want.
If that is now they go for it......if not hold off.
2006-11-15 07:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "you are ready", then bam, when the ink is dry, your on. But, and here is the catch. Understand that this is human nature--a cleansing, feel-good about myself ritual. It is all about "you". Thus, to be fair and moral, you must make sure your mate-du-jour knows his place. Does that make sense?
Appropriate timing is on the individual. Just make sure all involved understand the intentions.
Good luck and have fun!
2006-11-15 07:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ryno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's an indivdual thing, but people with young children should perhaps wait a little longer, if only to help them get aclimated to a new life, without the stress of mom or dad's new companions.
2006-11-15 07:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋