she was the first real relationship i was ever in we dated for a long while. she was the first girl i slept with. when we broke up we had a falling out. i needed space(i mean damn i was 17) and she was really clingy and ready to get married. she didn't approve of the way i was living(emancipated and doing drugs and drinking). she and i were on and off for a little while. the last time we had a fight i just left and we didn't speak for a long time. the last time i spoke to her was at our graduation she asked "are you okay" and i said "yeah i'm fine" we looked at each other and i walked away. i still feel like i hurt her and i know i am wrong for that. i feel like i want to apologize and tell her she was good to me and that i shouldn't have treated her like dirt when we were together. i don't want to get back together with her i have a girlfirend with a much better relationship. i just feel like i need closure or something what do i do here people? am i just and idiot?
2006-11-15 07:19:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Mabye you can write her a letter, apologizing & telling her how you feel.
Not sure how many years have passed, but she may not be willing to meet you in person. A nice closure letter would suffice, as long as you end it nicely & don't expect anything in return.
I know I would appreciate hearing from an ex years later....especially if it was someone who hurt me.
2006-11-15 07:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by jyanks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Closure is always a needed thing. Closure is good. You cant fully move on until there is closure. and apologizing is an essential as well. --Just apologize to her, ...tell her you're not saying it to get back with her, because you've moved on...but that you just wanted her to know that you were sorry. And that is was only right to apologize.
2006-11-15 07:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by sweetkiss_xo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Closure" = guyspeak for "i prefer to work out her and locate out if I nonetheless stand a great gamble". i could be very in touch. tell him he can get closure over the f*cking telephone. I continuously locate it nerve-racking whilst men say their habit is due completely to three terrible ex-female buddy's therapy of him. . . I mean, we are who we are, and that i do exactly no longer purchase it. except somebody is actual traumatized (and no, having your heart broken on the age of 17 isn't trauma), their habit would not rather replace plenty. we are creatures of habit, and your boyfriend is crammed with it if he says he's reluctant to have you ever in love with him by way of fact. . . what grew to become into it? he's going to *injury you*? Um, yeah, if he dumps you, that hurts too. i think of he has emotions, and is going on a reality-finding challenge. Be careful, lady.
2016-10-22 03:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by trowell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting her address and writing her a letter just to get out everything that you need to say. You WILL feel better knowing that you got it off of your chest regardless if she doesn't read it or respond, the fact will be that you let her know how sorry you are and sometime writing it on paper helps.
2006-11-15 07:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sylvia Brown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you would like to talk to her and apologize. I know it takes 2 to tangle and she probably has faults too but it really shows maturity that you are willing to face up to what you did in the relationship. I know what it is like to be just left hanging and it is hard to move on. Hats off to you and good luck
2006-11-15 07:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Doreen R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be telling her what you are telling us. The way you feel about the way you treated her, that your sorry. It takes a big person to admit when they are wrong and I admire you for trying to give closure to both yourself and her.
2006-11-15 07:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel bad for your actions and want to apologize, that is a very adult thing to want to do. You are not an idiot for wanting this.
2006-11-15 07:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about, let her know you have move on. Just need closure.
2006-11-15 07:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell her anything she's over it. she has moved on and found a good guy. If you tried to contact her she would probably just tell you not to call her again.
2006-11-15 07:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not an idiot. This is normal.
Give her a call and ask how shes doing. Its an adult thing to do.
2006-11-15 07:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋